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Hi! I have 2 adopted 2 feral girls from the shelter: Babs aged 5, who has been with me 1.5 years now, and Mirre aged 3, whom I got 1 year ago. They've settled in quite nicely and have become friends, but they are still very scared of humans. I've tried a lot of things to socialise them: playtime, lots of playtime and even more playtime :-), food and snacks, putting my hands a little closer to them each time they're relaxing in a spot, luring them onto my bed with the wand toy and getting them to sleep there (which they do occasionally!), walking around the house on tiptoe for the past 1.5 years, lying quietly on the floor hoping they'll approach (nope), touching them with a back scratcher hoping they'll discover how good it feels to be petted (nope) etc etc. None of it works. They are deathly afraid of my hands and they simply won't let me get near.
Mirre doesn't care for food and snacks but really loves to play. I've tried petting her during playtime when she comes close enough, but she flies away as soon as she feels anything on her fur. Babs loves food, doesn't care much for play, but she is so very scared of my hand that I can't get her to approach me, even if I'm holding nice food. She'll sometimes eat from a spoon but runs away as soon as I lift a finger.
It's been like this for a very long time now. We get a little closer each month in the sense that they sleep on my bed sometimes, and they stare at me through my half open bedroom door each morning when they want food. But we just can't seem to get to the point where they'll actually start to trust me.
I don't like the idea of forcing them, but sometimes I wonder if it wouldn't be better if I put them in a bench and touched them (with a glove for protection) to the point that they get used to being handled. Maybe then they wouldn't have to be scared of me all the time and can actually learn to be comfortable around me. But it seems a pretty extreme method and I'm not sure how I feel about it.
Do you have advice on how to get older ferals to trust you? I know patience is key and I have plenty of it, but right now I'm looking for more active methods.
Mirre doesn't care for food and snacks but really loves to play. I've tried petting her during playtime when she comes close enough, but she flies away as soon as she feels anything on her fur. Babs loves food, doesn't care much for play, but she is so very scared of my hand that I can't get her to approach me, even if I'm holding nice food. She'll sometimes eat from a spoon but runs away as soon as I lift a finger.
It's been like this for a very long time now. We get a little closer each month in the sense that they sleep on my bed sometimes, and they stare at me through my half open bedroom door each morning when they want food. But we just can't seem to get to the point where they'll actually start to trust me.
I don't like the idea of forcing them, but sometimes I wonder if it wouldn't be better if I put them in a bench and touched them (with a glove for protection) to the point that they get used to being handled. Maybe then they wouldn't have to be scared of me all the time and can actually learn to be comfortable around me. But it seems a pretty extreme method and I'm not sure how I feel about it.
Do you have advice on how to get older ferals to trust you? I know patience is key and I have plenty of it, but right now I'm looking for more active methods.