I've had Kirby for 1.5 months now. He was trapped as a stray when he was about 4 months old, found to be FELV+ and had lived at a shelter before I took him. Hes now close to 1 year old.
It could be his personality or the trauma of being trapped but he's very skittish. He has opened up a bit, eats well, uses his litterboxes consistently. He's also gotten more comfortable with me in the room and will play when I engage him with a wand toy. I try to get in at least half an hr of play with him everyday. He also plays on his own with the truckload of toys I've put in his room.
He does not let me pet him. He will try to avoid me, so far he's not been aggressive other than hissing a bit. He will stare at me with suspicion if I so much as rub my nose or move my leg while playing with him. When I stand up he normally bolts and hides under the sink almost immediately. If there's a sound that comes frm outside while we are playing, he would still stare at me with suspicion and you can see him deciding if he should run and hide.
My problem is he's not neutered and I had plans to, but now I'm really having second thoughts. It took a long time for him to be how he is now, and he's still really skittish. Having me grab him and wrestle him into a carrier and off to the vet will probably traumatise him more. I'm not sure if he would ever trust me again after that, given how little he trusts me now even though his life is fairly stable and comfortable now. Oh and I'm already into my second Feliway diffuser bottle.
I'm not sure what more I can do to get him to be comfortable around me, maybe this is as good as it gets. But what do I do about the neutering...? Is it okay not to neuter him? He never goes outside so the worst thing that can happen is he'll start spraying.
Has anyone been in a similar situation?
It could be his personality or the trauma of being trapped but he's very skittish. He has opened up a bit, eats well, uses his litterboxes consistently. He's also gotten more comfortable with me in the room and will play when I engage him with a wand toy. I try to get in at least half an hr of play with him everyday. He also plays on his own with the truckload of toys I've put in his room.
He does not let me pet him. He will try to avoid me, so far he's not been aggressive other than hissing a bit. He will stare at me with suspicion if I so much as rub my nose or move my leg while playing with him. When I stand up he normally bolts and hides under the sink almost immediately. If there's a sound that comes frm outside while we are playing, he would still stare at me with suspicion and you can see him deciding if he should run and hide.
My problem is he's not neutered and I had plans to, but now I'm really having second thoughts. It took a long time for him to be how he is now, and he's still really skittish. Having me grab him and wrestle him into a carrier and off to the vet will probably traumatise him more. I'm not sure if he would ever trust me again after that, given how little he trusts me now even though his life is fairly stable and comfortable now. Oh and I'm already into my second Feliway diffuser bottle.
I'm not sure what more I can do to get him to be comfortable around me, maybe this is as good as it gets. But what do I do about the neutering...? Is it okay not to neuter him? He never goes outside so the worst thing that can happen is he'll start spraying.
Has anyone been in a similar situation?