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Hello! (Sorry if this is long)
My name is Cain and my partner recently brought a cat(Moo-moo) into our home from a shelter (Which I'm cool with, I was there when our cat was adopted). The main issue is he's afraid of us, and I thought it wouldn't hurt to reach out to a community of cat lovers for advice.
Moo-Moo's background (Male, 4 years old, shelter rescue):
From what we can discern he may have been friendly street cat that was brought to a shelter. We were told he was adopted before but family only gave him 1-2 days to acclimate then introduced him to the whole house and another cat. He was then returned to the shelter again and we adopted him.
Our background:
Two humans live in the apartment, my partner and I. We have an office set up in the main room and a bedroom in the other. I work from home and stay here 24/7, while he goes out to a part-time job.
I had a cat that I moved in with from across the country and I had him for 18 years. This cat name was Winter* and he was a really relaxed, confident cat. Didn't mind being touched or picked up. He ever let me trim his nails on a regular basis. Very chill cat.
*In short, Winter passed away earlier this year, I'm just mentioning him so you know our cat experience.
**Also I just like talking about him.
Moving on.
Here's Moo-Moo's history with us:
At the Shelter: Moo-moo hid in a box with some towels draped over it. My partner was the one to pet him first and Moo-moo came out and enjoyed the petting. I did noticed he crouched/crawled when he moved around the room for pets. I assumed he was being submissive because another cat (that did not like cats) tried to swipe at him as he passed.
In our Home: The 1st month he would hiss at us if we came too close too fast. Hide from us actively and overall, stayed in the bedroom and was on constant alert.
2nd Month: This is when some progress was being made. We took some advice from the cat shelter about giving treats, trying to play with him, and petting him with a soft cat-charmer toy. At one point I event got to pet him with my hand! Gasp! That ended pretty quickly, however, when he began to scratch. I suspect it's because he ran out of toys.
See, the main trouble is, he won't play with us at all. We wave all kinds of toys around in all kinds of ways, he just doesn't want to play. But at night, he will carry around mouse toys, throw them off the cat tower (I assume lion king style) and just tear them apart! So at one point all the toys were gone and he took to taking plush toys off the shelves lol. I made him new toys which I'm constantly repairing.
Also around this time he started to venture out into the main room and hide under the futon.
Issue with that is we couldn't interact with him to pet him, give him treats or get his attention. He also began to sneeze, so I cleaned under the futon and blocked it off. (shortly after the sneezing stopped)
Now:
- I've tried giving him treats from my hand, but he just, smacks it out of my hand... lol
He lunges to attack my hand if I hold it out to him calmly to sniff. I really am trying to move slow and calm around him without staring. IDK what happened between him and human hands.
- I am trying to get him used to the cat-charmer again so I can try petting him with it like before(before he'd lean into it and really enjoy a good pet from it). But he just attacks it defensively now (not playfully).
- His new spot is under the window between our desks. But as soon as we show up to work he runs off in a hurry.
- I can get him to slow blink and calm down. But any sound can send him back into alert.
- He has a cat tower, even a floor to ceiling tower (that he doesn't use), and a window bed. Overall, he seems to be a "bush cat" and prefers to hide under things and in areas we can't see him in. But I'm afraid hiding is just feeding into his insecurities.
- in the day he usually hangs out in the bedroom, at night he runs around in the living room. (Lately he has been coming out into the living room when we're working, but is nervous doing so)
- He has a weird OCD thing about his litter. Whenever he uses it, he obsessively buries his business when he's done. For full minutes he's just sweeping litter over it till there's a large mound.
Anyway.
My concern is he may be Feral? Or just extremely shy. Whenever I research his behavior he seems to fit in both categories. It's just strange that he was really into being petted at the shelter.
I'm open to any advice or thoughts. For now we're just trying to spend time with him and give positive reinforcement when we can.
My name is Cain and my partner recently brought a cat(Moo-moo) into our home from a shelter (Which I'm cool with, I was there when our cat was adopted). The main issue is he's afraid of us, and I thought it wouldn't hurt to reach out to a community of cat lovers for advice.
Moo-Moo's background (Male, 4 years old, shelter rescue):
From what we can discern he may have been friendly street cat that was brought to a shelter. We were told he was adopted before but family only gave him 1-2 days to acclimate then introduced him to the whole house and another cat. He was then returned to the shelter again and we adopted him.
Our background:
Two humans live in the apartment, my partner and I. We have an office set up in the main room and a bedroom in the other. I work from home and stay here 24/7, while he goes out to a part-time job.
I had a cat that I moved in with from across the country and I had him for 18 years. This cat name was Winter* and he was a really relaxed, confident cat. Didn't mind being touched or picked up. He ever let me trim his nails on a regular basis. Very chill cat.
*In short, Winter passed away earlier this year, I'm just mentioning him so you know our cat experience.
**Also I just like talking about him.
Moving on.
Here's Moo-Moo's history with us:
At the Shelter: Moo-moo hid in a box with some towels draped over it. My partner was the one to pet him first and Moo-moo came out and enjoyed the petting. I did noticed he crouched/crawled when he moved around the room for pets. I assumed he was being submissive because another cat (that did not like cats) tried to swipe at him as he passed.
In our Home: The 1st month he would hiss at us if we came too close too fast. Hide from us actively and overall, stayed in the bedroom and was on constant alert.
2nd Month: This is when some progress was being made. We took some advice from the cat shelter about giving treats, trying to play with him, and petting him with a soft cat-charmer toy. At one point I event got to pet him with my hand! Gasp! That ended pretty quickly, however, when he began to scratch. I suspect it's because he ran out of toys.
See, the main trouble is, he won't play with us at all. We wave all kinds of toys around in all kinds of ways, he just doesn't want to play. But at night, he will carry around mouse toys, throw them off the cat tower (I assume lion king style) and just tear them apart! So at one point all the toys were gone and he took to taking plush toys off the shelves lol. I made him new toys which I'm constantly repairing.
Also around this time he started to venture out into the main room and hide under the futon.
Issue with that is we couldn't interact with him to pet him, give him treats or get his attention. He also began to sneeze, so I cleaned under the futon and blocked it off. (shortly after the sneezing stopped)
Now:
- I've tried giving him treats from my hand, but he just, smacks it out of my hand... lol
He lunges to attack my hand if I hold it out to him calmly to sniff. I really am trying to move slow and calm around him without staring. IDK what happened between him and human hands.
- I am trying to get him used to the cat-charmer again so I can try petting him with it like before(before he'd lean into it and really enjoy a good pet from it). But he just attacks it defensively now (not playfully).
- His new spot is under the window between our desks. But as soon as we show up to work he runs off in a hurry.
- I can get him to slow blink and calm down. But any sound can send him back into alert.
- He has a cat tower, even a floor to ceiling tower (that he doesn't use), and a window bed. Overall, he seems to be a "bush cat" and prefers to hide under things and in areas we can't see him in. But I'm afraid hiding is just feeding into his insecurities.
- in the day he usually hangs out in the bedroom, at night he runs around in the living room. (Lately he has been coming out into the living room when we're working, but is nervous doing so)
- He has a weird OCD thing about his litter. Whenever he uses it, he obsessively buries his business when he's done. For full minutes he's just sweeping litter over it till there's a large mound.
Anyway.
My concern is he may be Feral? Or just extremely shy. Whenever I research his behavior he seems to fit in both categories. It's just strange that he was really into being petted at the shelter.
I'm open to any advice or thoughts. For now we're just trying to spend time with him and give positive reinforcement when we can.