I adopted a kitten (currently 13 weeks old) a month ago and went through the steps of a slow introduction with the resident cat (9 months old). The introduction got derailed due to a URI but restarted the process after he got better. I live in a one bedroom apartment and the kitten is in the bedroom while the resident cat is in the living room. I have a pet gate up currently and they are able to see each other and can eat within about 2 feet away from each other. The resident cat will come up and nose sniff/touch and try to play with the kitten's paws through the gate. The problem starts when I let the kitten out of the bedroom. As soon as he gets out he's greeted by the resident cat who wants to sniff him and take it slowly but he immediately jumps on or chases after the resident cat. They play fight for about 20-30 seconds before they start chasing each other around the apartment and ends with the resident cat in a corner growling and hissing. I'm usually able to detect the signs where the resident cat starts getting upset (ear flattening) and pick up the kitten to put him away before it ends in a disaster. Last night they played for about 40 seconds with biting/swatting/wrestling before the kitten started irritating the resident cat and before I could pick him up there was a huge chase which ended up with the resident cat growling/hissing/panting/hiding. After getting the cats in their respective rooms I noticed that the kitten scratched the resident cat right under the eye which is very upsetting. I know kittens are active and don't have boundaries with their play, but he just doesn't know when to stop even when the resident cat is giving off signs to stop. The resident cat just ends up scared and stressed (she's starting to develop signs of a URI herself) after all the crazy interactions with the kitten.
I have the kitten isolated in the bedroom and he desperately wants out with his constant crying at the door. I feel terrible cooping him up in there when he just wants to run around and play. I'm also gone at work about 10 hours out of the day during the week and try to divide my time equally between the two cats so they each only get about 2-3 hours of my time a day which isn't a lot for a growing, impressionable kitten. I just don't know how to get him to stop being so aggressive with his play. I feel like he's lonely and stressed being cooped up in the bedroom by himself all day, and my resident cat is stressed with the frantic interactions she's constantly being exposed to. I'm starting to think that the new kitten might not be a great personality match with my resident cat, and that he would be much happier with a family that can accommodate his personality. I want both to be happy and want what's best for them. I just am conflicted about what that may be. I realize a month isn't very long in the cat intro world but at what point do I call it and decide to permanently re-home the kitteN?
Sorry for the long post. I'm beside myself with stress about the situation and want to get any opinion I can.
I have the kitten isolated in the bedroom and he desperately wants out with his constant crying at the door. I feel terrible cooping him up in there when he just wants to run around and play. I'm also gone at work about 10 hours out of the day during the week and try to divide my time equally between the two cats so they each only get about 2-3 hours of my time a day which isn't a lot for a growing, impressionable kitten. I just don't know how to get him to stop being so aggressive with his play. I feel like he's lonely and stressed being cooped up in the bedroom by himself all day, and my resident cat is stressed with the frantic interactions she's constantly being exposed to. I'm starting to think that the new kitten might not be a great personality match with my resident cat, and that he would be much happier with a family that can accommodate his personality. I want both to be happy and want what's best for them. I just am conflicted about what that may be. I realize a month isn't very long in the cat intro world but at what point do I call it and decide to permanently re-home the kitteN?
Sorry for the long post. I'm beside myself with stress about the situation and want to get any opinion I can.