Hello everyone! I hope you can help me or at least ease my mind. I adopted my first cat, Lottie, in November 2019, she is about to turn 3. She has always been a mellow cat, friendly, playful, doesn’t like cuddling but loves being near me or my boyfriend at all times, and handles change very very well. For about a year I had been thinking about getting her a sibling so she would have someone to play with but because of big life events it never happened. Recently my bf and I discussed it and thought that now would be a good time for us to adopt another. I had researched and also heard from several friends that adopting a kitten would be the easiest transition with a female adult cat. So 2 days ago we adopted the sweetest 4mo tortie, she is aggressively cuddly but is very needy and cries anytime we leave her in her room (we are attempting the method of separation/scent swapping/site swapping). On the first day, Lottie was curious but furious and hissed at the door repeatedly, since that first day she has shown no interest in the new kitten (yet to be named), avoids that area of the house entirely and is clearly distressed that this kitten is crying so often.
My concerns:
- I knew going into this process that it would be tricky and probably take time, I did not expect to find it so emotionally difficult and sad.
- I am afraid the kitten isn’t getting enough attention because she has to be isolated and we need to love on Lottie as a priority
- I’m afraid that Lottie will turn into a different cat than the one she was before we got the kitten.
- The entire reason we got the kitten was for Lottie and now I am having serious doubts if this will even be good for her
- I’m afraid that we are robbing this kitten of valuable time should this not work out and ruin her chance of finding a good home that could give her unlimited attention
We aren’t particularly attached to the kitten yet because we are both afraid that this won’t work out. That in itself is making me feel terrible. Please let me know what you all think
My concerns:
- I knew going into this process that it would be tricky and probably take time, I did not expect to find it so emotionally difficult and sad.
- I am afraid the kitten isn’t getting enough attention because she has to be isolated and we need to love on Lottie as a priority
- I’m afraid that Lottie will turn into a different cat than the one she was before we got the kitten.
- The entire reason we got the kitten was for Lottie and now I am having serious doubts if this will even be good for her
- I’m afraid that we are robbing this kitten of valuable time should this not work out and ruin her chance of finding a good home that could give her unlimited attention
We aren’t particularly attached to the kitten yet because we are both afraid that this won’t work out. That in itself is making me feel terrible. Please let me know what you all think