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I did some searching but couldn't find any items that closely matched my situation, so I apologize if this has already been covered on this forum.
My cat is afraid of the world. We adopted her just over a year ago from a friend and she is the sweetest little snugglebug but she adds new meaning to the word "skittish." When we first brought her home, she spent about a month hiding under our bed and would only come out to eat and use her box when we were asleep. Since then, she has become so much better with us and has become quite a love, though my boyfriend still makes her nervous sometimes (which I get because he's a giant.) However, if anyone new comes into the apartment or if she so much as hears someone new outside the door even, she goes into hiding. Once or twice, I've taken her out from under the bed just after they've left and I can actually feel her little heart pounding until I show her that they're gone (if I don't encourage her to come out, she'll stay there until we go to sleep and the witching hour begins where she eats and runs amuck). With some overnight guests, she'll get a little braver and come out after a couple days, but she won't let them near her. Basically, my boyfriend and I and two guests (who stayed for a week) have ever seen her. I actually feel guilty when we have friends over because it seems so traumatic for her. I guess my question is, will she ever come out of her shell or will guests be a traumatic event for her every time? Is there anything I can do to help her become more comfortable?
A little background on her: she is about 5 years old and I don't know much about her history before she came to us. I know this is at least her 3rd home (and she is here to stay for good) and at one point when she was a kitten, she was found as a stray. Her skittishness and fear of loud noises (even if it's my boyfriend and I laughing) make me think she experienced some abuse at some point. My friend gave her up because their family dog would torment her to the point where she wasn't even able to get to her litter box anymore and was piddling on the floor. Since she is 5 years old, I worry this is just the way things are going to be. Any tips are appreciated!
My cat is afraid of the world. We adopted her just over a year ago from a friend and she is the sweetest little snugglebug but she adds new meaning to the word "skittish." When we first brought her home, she spent about a month hiding under our bed and would only come out to eat and use her box when we were asleep. Since then, she has become so much better with us and has become quite a love, though my boyfriend still makes her nervous sometimes (which I get because he's a giant.) However, if anyone new comes into the apartment or if she so much as hears someone new outside the door even, she goes into hiding. Once or twice, I've taken her out from under the bed just after they've left and I can actually feel her little heart pounding until I show her that they're gone (if I don't encourage her to come out, she'll stay there until we go to sleep and the witching hour begins where she eats and runs amuck). With some overnight guests, she'll get a little braver and come out after a couple days, but she won't let them near her. Basically, my boyfriend and I and two guests (who stayed for a week) have ever seen her. I actually feel guilty when we have friends over because it seems so traumatic for her. I guess my question is, will she ever come out of her shell or will guests be a traumatic event for her every time? Is there anything I can do to help her become more comfortable?
A little background on her: she is about 5 years old and I don't know much about her history before she came to us. I know this is at least her 3rd home (and she is here to stay for good) and at one point when she was a kitten, she was found as a stray. Her skittishness and fear of loud noises (even if it's my boyfriend and I laughing) make me think she experienced some abuse at some point. My friend gave her up because their family dog would torment her to the point where she wasn't even able to get to her litter box anymore and was piddling on the floor. Since she is 5 years old, I worry this is just the way things are going to be. Any tips are appreciated!