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I apologize if this isn't the right category, but I need help with this decision. Also I apologize if this is long, I wasn't sure where to start.
Over a year ago I lost my childhood cat, Albert, to cancer. Albert and I were very close, and it broke my heart to lose him. Due to this, I held off on getting a new cat. I waited a whole year, and then I met Oscar. When I met Oscar at the shelter, he followed me around begging to be pet and I thought he could be the cat for me. So after mulling it over, I adopted him about 3 weeks ago.
Oscar is only two years old, so he's quite a bit more rambuncious than I am used to. I rolled up my sleeves and made dedicated play time to expend his energy. After trying many different toys, I can't seem to exhaust him. He always wants to play more. And now, when I try to pet him he bites me hard enough to draw blood. I assume he's over stimulated and needs to be played with more, but I can't seem to play with him enough to make him stop biting me. I do stop playing with him when he bites me, but he doesn't seem to be getting the message. He also keeps yowling at me if I don't play with him. I'm playing with him as much as I can, and I got him a variety of toys (chaser toys, treat hiding toys, interactive toys, etc.) but I'm starting to wonder if I'm not a good fit for him.
His constant biting, getting into things, and yowling is stressing me out to the point where I don't want to go home. Plus I don't feel like I'm bonding with him at all. I don't really love this cat, and he seems indifferent to me. The best moments I have with Oscar is when we manage to sit quietly in the same room together.
I love how confident Oscar is, but I wish he was more cuddly and frankly a bit less energetic. Another issue is, I am a college student and come September I will have even less time to play with Oscar. Therefore I am left with a tough decision, do I return him to the shelter? Or will we bond with more time?
I have never returned a cat to the shelter before, and I'm just worried that I'm giving up too easily. And on the other hand, Oscar would easily be adopted again and I worry about getting him too well adapted to his new life if I'm going to rip it away from him. I just don't know, but things can't continue as they are.
I appreciate any advice you can provide.
Over a year ago I lost my childhood cat, Albert, to cancer. Albert and I were very close, and it broke my heart to lose him. Due to this, I held off on getting a new cat. I waited a whole year, and then I met Oscar. When I met Oscar at the shelter, he followed me around begging to be pet and I thought he could be the cat for me. So after mulling it over, I adopted him about 3 weeks ago.
Oscar is only two years old, so he's quite a bit more rambuncious than I am used to. I rolled up my sleeves and made dedicated play time to expend his energy. After trying many different toys, I can't seem to exhaust him. He always wants to play more. And now, when I try to pet him he bites me hard enough to draw blood. I assume he's over stimulated and needs to be played with more, but I can't seem to play with him enough to make him stop biting me. I do stop playing with him when he bites me, but he doesn't seem to be getting the message. He also keeps yowling at me if I don't play with him. I'm playing with him as much as I can, and I got him a variety of toys (chaser toys, treat hiding toys, interactive toys, etc.) but I'm starting to wonder if I'm not a good fit for him.
His constant biting, getting into things, and yowling is stressing me out to the point where I don't want to go home. Plus I don't feel like I'm bonding with him at all. I don't really love this cat, and he seems indifferent to me. The best moments I have with Oscar is when we manage to sit quietly in the same room together.
I love how confident Oscar is, but I wish he was more cuddly and frankly a bit less energetic. Another issue is, I am a college student and come September I will have even less time to play with Oscar. Therefore I am left with a tough decision, do I return him to the shelter? Or will we bond with more time?
I have never returned a cat to the shelter before, and I'm just worried that I'm giving up too easily. And on the other hand, Oscar would easily be adopted again and I worry about getting him too well adapted to his new life if I'm going to rip it away from him. I just don't know, but things can't continue as they are.
I appreciate any advice you can provide.