Feels like forever that I last came to you all with a problem....
My oldest, Singa, is now coming to 12 years. I have had her since she was a kitten of approx 5-6 weeks. She was a street kitten, but she has never had any ferral traits. She is the sweetest and most patient cat I know.
When she was about 1.5 yrs old, we met my now husband. He kind of moved straight in with me so she has known and been around him for over 10 years. He lovers her, but its not really reciprocal. For most of the time she tolerates his presence and she also goes to him when I am not available, but she would normally choose to cuddle with me than with him.
She has started being nasty to him though, usually in situations when she gets stressed. It started when my husband accidentally stepped on our other cat's paw about 3 years ago. Soleil screeched in pain (of course) and my husband felt super sorry/guilty. Within a short moment Singa dashed in between my husband and Soleil (like as if she was protecting her) and started growling and swatting at my husband when he tried to check on Soleil's paw. This didn't last very long and he was finally able to check out the paw (all was ok).
A second time, Soleil was out behind our garden and attacked by a tom. You could hear the growling and screaming and she came darting in. Singa, was freaked out by this and when my husband went upstairs to get a better look out the back, Singa decided to hunt him down and attack his legs. He sought refuge on the bed and called me upstairs because he was scared of Singa. Of course when I was there Singa was no threat anymore.
This morning, Singa was eating and she was kind of moving her body around the bowl and bumped into a water bottle which fell over and caused a bit of a bang. She completely freaked and ran upstairs, but not without running over and injuring my husbands foot (she panicked, it was not out of spite). About 10 min later he tried to come upstairs and Singa was guarding the top of the stairs and started hissing and growling at him. Even I could not really calm her down, though she did not do anything to me when I tried to pick her up. Her grudge lasted until he left for his business trip.
He is away now for the rest of the week and Singa is her usual needy/cuddly self. I'm sure by the time he returns she will have gotten over it, but what can be done so this doesn't happen again?
Husband is of course unhappy that she still won't accept him as her cat-daddy and I don't know how I can get her to trust him.
She jumps up whenever he sneezes or makes any other louder noise, but when she sits on my lap and I sneeze (and my sneeze is not cute or quiet at all
) she keeps calm.
How can I mend their relationship (well more her relationship issues)???
My oldest, Singa, is now coming to 12 years. I have had her since she was a kitten of approx 5-6 weeks. She was a street kitten, but she has never had any ferral traits. She is the sweetest and most patient cat I know.
When she was about 1.5 yrs old, we met my now husband. He kind of moved straight in with me so she has known and been around him for over 10 years. He lovers her, but its not really reciprocal. For most of the time she tolerates his presence and she also goes to him when I am not available, but she would normally choose to cuddle with me than with him.
She has started being nasty to him though, usually in situations when she gets stressed. It started when my husband accidentally stepped on our other cat's paw about 3 years ago. Soleil screeched in pain (of course) and my husband felt super sorry/guilty. Within a short moment Singa dashed in between my husband and Soleil (like as if she was protecting her) and started growling and swatting at my husband when he tried to check on Soleil's paw. This didn't last very long and he was finally able to check out the paw (all was ok).
A second time, Soleil was out behind our garden and attacked by a tom. You could hear the growling and screaming and she came darting in. Singa, was freaked out by this and when my husband went upstairs to get a better look out the back, Singa decided to hunt him down and attack his legs. He sought refuge on the bed and called me upstairs because he was scared of Singa. Of course when I was there Singa was no threat anymore.
This morning, Singa was eating and she was kind of moving her body around the bowl and bumped into a water bottle which fell over and caused a bit of a bang. She completely freaked and ran upstairs, but not without running over and injuring my husbands foot (she panicked, it was not out of spite). About 10 min later he tried to come upstairs and Singa was guarding the top of the stairs and started hissing and growling at him. Even I could not really calm her down, though she did not do anything to me when I tried to pick her up. Her grudge lasted until he left for his business trip.
He is away now for the rest of the week and Singa is her usual needy/cuddly self. I'm sure by the time he returns she will have gotten over it, but what can be done so this doesn't happen again?
Husband is of course unhappy that she still won't accept him as her cat-daddy and I don't know how I can get her to trust him.
She jumps up whenever he sneezes or makes any other louder noise, but when she sits on my lap and I sneeze (and my sneeze is not cute or quiet at all
) she keeps calm.How can I mend their relationship (well more her relationship issues)???
She really is alright with him in the normal day routine. Just when she freaks she always portrays the evil with him. The last incident was really her own fault for bumping the bottles and yet she gets angry at him 
