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So I have a male ragdoll that's almost 6 months, and he breaks my heart. He doesn't let us hold him, he never sits or goes near our laps, he doesn't rub his head or body against us, and he'll only come visit us for like 2min at night. He'll follow us around but I really really wanted a lap cat or at least a cat that will sit right next to me. Affection by touch is a really big deal for me, and I'm finding it incredibly hard to love him when he won't come close to me. I didn't want a cat that was a 'living ornament', I wanted a companion that would want to be with me. I play with him all the time, he has tons of toys, I pet him when he's sleepy (only time he won't bite me). Looking at pictures of people who have cats that sit on them, cats that want their affection all the time is driving me mad. I'm seriously considering giving this another shot and try a second kitten or adult cat who is more cuddly. There are days where I love the stupid fuzzball to pieces, but we also have a lot of bad days where his obnoxious behaviour makes me feel like I made the wrong choice. Even my friends have noticed a change in him - he's a lot more bratty since when we first got him at 4 months. What do I do???
Yes I know I should love him regardless of what his personality is, and I should let him give affection to me on his terms etc, but having a lap cat is one of my biggest dreams ever since I was a kid, and it's something I desperately want before I die. I don't know if I have the patience to wait until he's like 4 years old and has 'mellowed' out to see if he'll cuddle - by then I'll have a family, I'll be busier, and who knows, he might like my kids more.
Yes I know I should love him regardless of what his personality is, and I should let him give affection to me on his terms etc, but having a lap cat is one of my biggest dreams ever since I was a kid, and it's something I desperately want before I die. I don't know if I have the patience to wait until he's like 4 years old and has 'mellowed' out to see if he'll cuddle - by then I'll have a family, I'll be busier, and who knows, he might like my kids more.