Hello all!
Let me start by giving the backround story...
So I had previously posted a thread about my (3 month old) kitten attacking mine and my boyfriend's face at night while we slept. I loved cuddling with her but in the middle of the night she should get playfully aggressive and would not realize we were sleeping and jump on our faces. She would also just simply attack us, feet, hands, legs.. noses.. So we started leaving her outside the bedroom at night because we had had enough. Then arose another problem: she missed us at night and would start meowing in the middle of the night really loud and painful. It broke my heart hearing her meow so I would get up in the middle of the night to cuddle her and ended up falling asleep on the couch... only to wake up to a kitty biting my nose. Ouch. (There would be blood, she would occasionally scratch my face also leaving red marks on my face.) I would take her, with a firm "NO" and put her back on the ground but she would keep doing it. (This is what we did at first when we let her sleep in the room.)
We have been trying to fix the meowing issue for a long time now and we're pulling out our hair trying to do so...
A little bit of info:
- We live in a one bedroom apartment. It is fairly small.
- We have 2 scratching posts and plenty of toys (A plush baby toy with a bell inside, another plush toy shaped as a big ball, one of the scratching posts has a bell at the top, the other has a fluffy thing pending from it, Catit Senses Speed Circuit, A cylinder toy with a ball/bell attached to it, a square piece of carpet with a spring and a mouse attached to it, and we always have crumpled papers lying around because she loves to play with them... a lot of toys for the little missy!)
- She has her own plushie mattress set up on my computer desk, her favourite place to sleep... she is here right now sleeping on it.
- A bed with very comfortable plush blankies inside.. which she never sleeps in... but anyway lol
- We always leave the stove hut light on for her at night.
- We play music for her at night so that she doesn't get lonely.
- We leave a food dispenser out so that she has food all the time.
- She has clean running water 24/7 (Catit sense fresh and clean water fountain)
OK so now that you have the rundown...
She still meows at around 6 in the morning every single morning, but it has gotten less bad. We have been sticking to a routine for about 2 - 3 weeks I'd say. I have just read in this thread "Please help me get some sleep!!!" posted by @ItsNotPeanutBut (Thank you by the way!) a new technique to getting her to stop meowing in the morning. I'm going to give detailed updates about this technique. Basically we need to limit her food and give her scheduled playtime and eating time twice a day. Get her tired and all and used to a new routine. I will start this as of tomorrow because she had already had her food out most of the day. One of my mistakes is getting up at 6 in the morning to go to the washroom because I am awakened by her meows anyway, but when I do get up I let her come into the bathroom with me and cuddle her... MISTAKE. Then when I try to go back into the room she wants to follow. And NOW she expects me to do this every morning.. and of course I do cause I can't help cuddling with the little bugger!
SO now I'm FINALLY getting to the point of the thread...
I have this fear... Assuming all will go well and we will get her to stop meowing every morning with this new routine... I absolutely LOVED cuddling in bed with Shadow but then the whole problem with her being aggressive at night started, forcing us to leave her out of the room... My fear is that we will never be able to re-introduce her to sleeping with us again when she's a bit older. My question is, is it possible to do this? It would sadden me if I would never be able to cuddle with her peacefully at night again.
If it IS a possibility... how would I go about it? (and I'm not talking in the near future, I'm talking about in a few months from now...) Would everything we've worked on, all the training, go to waste? Would we need to restart this whole process if we re-introduce her to sleeping with us in the room?
I really hope there is a way we can once again have cuddle time while we sleep!
All information/comments are very appreciated.
- Concerned mother of Shadow
Let me start by giving the backround story...
So I had previously posted a thread about my (3 month old) kitten attacking mine and my boyfriend's face at night while we slept. I loved cuddling with her but in the middle of the night she should get playfully aggressive and would not realize we were sleeping and jump on our faces. She would also just simply attack us, feet, hands, legs.. noses.. So we started leaving her outside the bedroom at night because we had had enough. Then arose another problem: she missed us at night and would start meowing in the middle of the night really loud and painful. It broke my heart hearing her meow so I would get up in the middle of the night to cuddle her and ended up falling asleep on the couch... only to wake up to a kitty biting my nose. Ouch. (There would be blood, she would occasionally scratch my face also leaving red marks on my face.) I would take her, with a firm "NO" and put her back on the ground but she would keep doing it. (This is what we did at first when we let her sleep in the room.)
We have been trying to fix the meowing issue for a long time now and we're pulling out our hair trying to do so...
A little bit of info:
- We live in a one bedroom apartment. It is fairly small.
- We have 2 scratching posts and plenty of toys (A plush baby toy with a bell inside, another plush toy shaped as a big ball, one of the scratching posts has a bell at the top, the other has a fluffy thing pending from it, Catit Senses Speed Circuit, A cylinder toy with a ball/bell attached to it, a square piece of carpet with a spring and a mouse attached to it, and we always have crumpled papers lying around because she loves to play with them... a lot of toys for the little missy!)
- She has her own plushie mattress set up on my computer desk, her favourite place to sleep... she is here right now sleeping on it.
- A bed with very comfortable plush blankies inside.. which she never sleeps in... but anyway lol
- We always leave the stove hut light on for her at night.
- We play music for her at night so that she doesn't get lonely.
- We leave a food dispenser out so that she has food all the time.
- She has clean running water 24/7 (Catit sense fresh and clean water fountain)
OK so now that you have the rundown...
She still meows at around 6 in the morning every single morning, but it has gotten less bad. We have been sticking to a routine for about 2 - 3 weeks I'd say. I have just read in this thread "Please help me get some sleep!!!" posted by @ItsNotPeanutBut (Thank you by the way!) a new technique to getting her to stop meowing in the morning. I'm going to give detailed updates about this technique. Basically we need to limit her food and give her scheduled playtime and eating time twice a day. Get her tired and all and used to a new routine. I will start this as of tomorrow because she had already had her food out most of the day. One of my mistakes is getting up at 6 in the morning to go to the washroom because I am awakened by her meows anyway, but when I do get up I let her come into the bathroom with me and cuddle her... MISTAKE. Then when I try to go back into the room she wants to follow. And NOW she expects me to do this every morning.. and of course I do cause I can't help cuddling with the little bugger!
SO now I'm FINALLY getting to the point of the thread...
I have this fear... Assuming all will go well and we will get her to stop meowing every morning with this new routine... I absolutely LOVED cuddling in bed with Shadow but then the whole problem with her being aggressive at night started, forcing us to leave her out of the room... My fear is that we will never be able to re-introduce her to sleeping with us again when she's a bit older. My question is, is it possible to do this? It would sadden me if I would never be able to cuddle with her peacefully at night again.
If it IS a possibility... how would I go about it? (and I'm not talking in the near future, I'm talking about in a few months from now...) Would everything we've worked on, all the training, go to waste? Would we need to restart this whole process if we re-introduce her to sleeping with us in the room?
I really hope there is a way we can once again have cuddle time while we sleep!
All information/comments are very appreciated.
- Concerned mother of Shadow