When you find out... let me know!Originally Posted by Tink80
...How do I win???
Ha, maybe years ago that would've sounded good. Ever since I was raped by a group of white supremacists for my heritage, I can't really just "turn the sex on" like that. Oh, and the beer wouldn't work too well because he's a recovered alcoholicOriginally Posted by watchcaddy
Give them a beer, a back rub and a bit of sexual healing, things will be back to normal in no time. IMHO
Same here!Originally Posted by DaniMarie
I poke and poke and poke until I get something out of him though....In the end, we're both feeling better once he just opens up.
Originally Posted by theimp98
word of advice, how this may not be all men.
If i am, bad mood LEAVE ME alone, i dont want to talk, i dont want anyone to touch me. etc. just deal with it, its teh way most men are bulit. Its hardwired in are brian. bugging me about whats wrong is just going to piss me off worse.
let us relax some, then if we want to talk then do something togther,
play a video game, work around the house. Most men do not want to sit and have a heart to heart talk, but many will open up, and talk about stuff, how they are working or doing other stuff
who we are active with other things
until then let us alone in are man caves.
Mine would never push me away when he is any of those things, he likes to express his feelings and never makes me wonder what is wrong, and that is how we get through things. I think it is just a respect between us that developed over the years. We are really laid back with each other generally and don't bottle things up, we have been together a long time so we have a good sense about emotions, moods, and being there for each other and what works in our close relationship.Originally Posted by Tink80
If you were grumpy/tired/stressed/depressed, would you want your SO to ask questions, console you, or just leave you the heck alone to brew for awhile?
Sorry, I really need to know.
Food!Originally Posted by sarahp
When my DH is tired and stressed, he appreciates when I cook him something yummy,.
This is great advice.Originally Posted by theimp98
well, one thing you need to understand is that it is his issue?
give him a hug, and kiss, tell him your there for him.
really dont allow his mood to spill over into yours
hmm, i am thinking of putting a cat door in my cave.Originally Posted by Essayons89
I need some new paints for my cave.