To start this off, I cant stand my future SIL. Nobody in the family likes her, she's ungrateful, annoying, and nasty towards others. I dont know what my BIL sees in her, and I honestly would love to back out of their wedding - I only agreed because its my BIL's and he was in ours. His parents have even sat him down to try and talk some sense into him. I never liked his fiancee, she's never really liked me either but she had no one to be in her bridal party. They live in the room Rob and I used to live in when we were still staying with them.
As I've posted before, Katina lives with them as well. She didn't really like Nero and is now black cat biased it seems
She never had met Hoshi before, all he wanted was a sniff and she freaked. After we moved, my in-laws had really wanted to keep her because they had gotten attached to her. She was always nicer to them than us anyway
Considering they live behind us, it wasn't a big deal - we can come see her all the time (and of course now she's much more lovey towards us). She's a much happier cat being by herself. We could tell the difference when we let her stay over there - complete 180* in attitude.
How does this come together? Well, my FIL told FSIL that she wasn't allowed to move her two cats in that live with her parents after she moved in. My BIL didn't want any other cats there either. I was browsing facebook and saw her status saying she moved one of her cats (who's all black, which just the sight of seems to freak out Katina) into the house. Ok whatever. I mentioned the reason Katina doesn't live with us is because she is supposed to be an only cat. She responds with "Well they'll get along great, I know it!" Katina is just now getting over the trauma of a German Shepherd trying to kill her a few times in the last 2 months (dog has since moved back to Maine with Rob's cousin - Katina is trying to get used to being back in the house and not having to be afraid. The vet even said she had an elevated heart rate from the stress of the dog chasing her all the time when she'd be inside the same time he was). The last week the dog was there, Katina ended up wrapped around his face kicking wildly, and they both ended up with paint on them from a paint can the dog knocked over.
The next thing I see FSIL say is that she took Katina's cat tree and put it downstairs in their room for her cat. Um, no. I paid the $120 for that tree, and it is Katina's.
If she's not using it anymore (we left it there because she used to LOVE being in it), our cats would gladly use it. I dont think she's been in her tree for awhile because she's basically stayed outside to avoid the dog as much as possible since Thanksgiving. I texted Rob and he said we'd be going over to take it back, unless she wants to give us the money for it. We didn't buy it for FSIL to use, sorry. And I'm not going to stand for MY baby to feeling like she has to stay outside again because FSIL inconsiderately ignored what my FIL & BIL said about any other cats there, and ignored that I said Katina is supposed to be an only cat. If she wasn't, I'd have her at my house.
Just needed to rant. Are we wrong for wanting to take our stuff back instead of having FSIL take it and use it for her cat only? I'm not providing her with stuff that I bought for MY cat. It's not even as if she's broke - she's getting a free ride on everything as it is. I dont think it's fair to Katina that she is supposed to be the only cat there, and now FSIL terrifies her own cat (who's been hiding in the corner all weekend afraid to come out or eat) because she is angry with her dad and by taking the cat to my in-law's, she's defying him as well.
We're sitting down to talk with my MIL tonight and make sure that Katina is still #1 in that house. My MIL cried one night when Katina didn't come home the same time she did because she thought the dog may have gotten her during the day - she gets upset sometimes if Katina isn't there to cuddle on her after work, too. So I know she wants what's best for her as well. There was a time when my in-laws didn't see her for two days and when I let her inside on a visit over there my FIL scooped her up and hugged her for a good 5 minutes. I wonder how happy he is about FSIL ignoring what he said about the cats when she moved in last year.
As I've posted before, Katina lives with them as well. She didn't really like Nero and is now black cat biased it seems
How does this come together? Well, my FIL told FSIL that she wasn't allowed to move her two cats in that live with her parents after she moved in. My BIL didn't want any other cats there either. I was browsing facebook and saw her status saying she moved one of her cats (who's all black, which just the sight of seems to freak out Katina) into the house. Ok whatever. I mentioned the reason Katina doesn't live with us is because she is supposed to be an only cat. She responds with "Well they'll get along great, I know it!" Katina is just now getting over the trauma of a German Shepherd trying to kill her a few times in the last 2 months (dog has since moved back to Maine with Rob's cousin - Katina is trying to get used to being back in the house and not having to be afraid. The vet even said she had an elevated heart rate from the stress of the dog chasing her all the time when she'd be inside the same time he was). The last week the dog was there, Katina ended up wrapped around his face kicking wildly, and they both ended up with paint on them from a paint can the dog knocked over.
The next thing I see FSIL say is that she took Katina's cat tree and put it downstairs in their room for her cat. Um, no. I paid the $120 for that tree, and it is Katina's.
Just needed to rant. Are we wrong for wanting to take our stuff back instead of having FSIL take it and use it for her cat only? I'm not providing her with stuff that I bought for MY cat. It's not even as if she's broke - she's getting a free ride on everything as it is. I dont think it's fair to Katina that she is supposed to be the only cat there, and now FSIL terrifies her own cat (who's been hiding in the corner all weekend afraid to come out or eat) because she is angry with her dad and by taking the cat to my in-law's, she's defying him as well.
We're sitting down to talk with my MIL tonight and make sure that Katina is still #1 in that house. My MIL cried one night when Katina didn't come home the same time she did because she thought the dog may have gotten her during the day - she gets upset sometimes if Katina isn't there to cuddle on her after work, too. So I know she wants what's best for her as well. There was a time when my in-laws didn't see her for two days and when I let her inside on a visit over there my FIL scooped her up and hugged her for a good 5 minutes. I wonder how happy he is about FSIL ignoring what he said about the cats when she moved in last year.