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Hi,
I am sorry to bother you but I badly need your help.
My almost 9 month kitten is terrified of my bf and I am supposed to go on vacation in 3 days.
So 3 weeks ago my bf had an incident with my kitten. They never have been best friends as my bf has always been a bit too insistant on handling her even if she did not like it. But it was nothing bad. Until 3 weeks ago where my cat was hidding under a chest of drawer and he went to reassure her but she felt cornered and was terrified. She bit him, hissed, growled and even pooped of fear. As soon as I heard that I rushed back home and when she heard me she went out of hiding. He then left the day after for 3 weeks for work and promised me to leave the cat alone once he came back.
During those 3 weeks she was fine, back to her normal self, (which is very confident). He came back tuesday night, as soon as she saw him she hissed (he hissed back :/) and went hiding. She is terrified, she moves like a feral cat. She is hiding a lot, and always monitoring his movement. I have been spending a lot of time with her to try to reassure her, sometimes with more or less success. She still comes to me when I call her and came to find shelter with me. So to make her feel safer here what I did:
-I have built a few cat tent to hide
- I have place window shelves, up high. But she does not uses them
-I have been providing her with hiding spots
-I have been there and took my mornings off work to be with her
- I have been trying to play with her. But she is sometimes too agitated or nervous to play. This morning I could but otherwise it has been hard. I wanted to show her that it was fine
-Plug-in feliway
- Put some of scrathing posts at different places so things would smell like her.
She is still not her self at all and she is suffering. It breaks my heart, I have been crying a LOT.
On top of that I am supposed to leave sunday for 2 weeks with my mum. It is dream holiday. But I feel terrified of how she is going to be alone with him for 2 weeks. She always had a bit of seperation anxiety when I left but now it will be magnified.
I am afraid she will be traumatized and the idea of her so alone breaks my heart. I don't know what I should do:
Should I cancel (but I already spent 3500$ dollars booking everything and I have been dreaming about it for years)?
Sbould I get a pet sitter to come around to reassure her?
Should I try to find somewhere to stay (I don't have any friends that would accept her however?
I would give her a safe room If I could but I leave in a 1 bedroom appartment. I don't know what to do my heart is breaking. Please give me some advice, anything.
I am sorry to bother you but I badly need your help.
My almost 9 month kitten is terrified of my bf and I am supposed to go on vacation in 3 days.
So 3 weeks ago my bf had an incident with my kitten. They never have been best friends as my bf has always been a bit too insistant on handling her even if she did not like it. But it was nothing bad. Until 3 weeks ago where my cat was hidding under a chest of drawer and he went to reassure her but she felt cornered and was terrified. She bit him, hissed, growled and even pooped of fear. As soon as I heard that I rushed back home and when she heard me she went out of hiding. He then left the day after for 3 weeks for work and promised me to leave the cat alone once he came back.
During those 3 weeks she was fine, back to her normal self, (which is very confident). He came back tuesday night, as soon as she saw him she hissed (he hissed back :/) and went hiding. She is terrified, she moves like a feral cat. She is hiding a lot, and always monitoring his movement. I have been spending a lot of time with her to try to reassure her, sometimes with more or less success. She still comes to me when I call her and came to find shelter with me. So to make her feel safer here what I did:
-I have built a few cat tent to hide
- I have place window shelves, up high. But she does not uses them
-I have been providing her with hiding spots
-I have been there and took my mornings off work to be with her
- I have been trying to play with her. But she is sometimes too agitated or nervous to play. This morning I could but otherwise it has been hard. I wanted to show her that it was fine
-Plug-in feliway
- Put some of scrathing posts at different places so things would smell like her.
She is still not her self at all and she is suffering. It breaks my heart, I have been crying a LOT.
On top of that I am supposed to leave sunday for 2 weeks with my mum. It is dream holiday. But I feel terrified of how she is going to be alone with him for 2 weeks. She always had a bit of seperation anxiety when I left but now it will be magnified.
I am afraid she will be traumatized and the idea of her so alone breaks my heart. I don't know what I should do:
Should I cancel (but I already spent 3500$ dollars booking everything and I have been dreaming about it for years)?
Sbould I get a pet sitter to come around to reassure her?
Should I try to find somewhere to stay (I don't have any friends that would accept her however?
I would give her a safe room If I could but I leave in a 1 bedroom appartment. I don't know what to do my heart is breaking. Please give me some advice, anything.