When I was 21 (13.5 yrs ago) I dated a guy who had paranoid skitzophrenia. My DH was really close friends with him and helped him in a point in his life where he'd tried to kill himself and by the grace of the creator he lived. That was before I met either of them.
I just talked to him today, and he's out there again. It always breaks my heart when I think about it. I love this guy (NOT Like I love my DH, but if he had been more stable he may have been DH) He and I still have a close connection. He told my DH that if he had been different with me, things would have worked out better between us, and that was one of the biggest mistakes he ever made. IT wasn't a mistake, I just couldn't handle his illness. I'm not the most stable person in the world, and being with him was making me loose it.
I am open and honest about my feelings with DH, and he knows that if he wasn't paranoid skitzophrenia I could very well still be with him. DH Knows I am with him, and that he is the only one for me. Yet I feel slightly guilty. I always figured straight honesty is the best in our relationship. I tell DH every time I talk to him, and how I feel. DH is very understanding, since he was very close to him as well.
I'm slightly sad though. I know there is nothing I can do to help. I can only be positive when I talk to him, and look past the strange things he says. He doesn't push me away like he used to, and he doesn't read into what I say looking for the negative (I think that was what he viewed to be his big mistake).
He was diagnosed very young, and had a vasectomy at 18 I believe, so he wouldn't pass on the genes and make someone else suffer like he does.
Do any of you know anyone who suffers with this? How do you deal with it?
It's hard for me because he is special to me, he always has been since the day I met him, even on the day I broke up with him. It was hard for me, but best for us both. I could see us starting down a bad road and I didn't want to go there.
I just had to kind of vent. It bothers me a lot. I wish there was a cure. I don't ask him about his meds, so I don't know if he is on or off them right now. He's pretty sane for a while, then he goes off the deep end for a while, then he's sane... back and forth. He's one of the most loving people I have ever known in my life, but he pushes people away. His mom had paranoid skitzophrenia and killed herself when he was 12, and he found her. He's had it rough, but he keeps going, and he is very religious, and that helps him.
I was just curious how others deal with it. I don't have to deal with it often, since we don't talk a lot. It just hurts me when he is out there when I talk to him.
Thank you
Be safe.
I just talked to him today, and he's out there again. It always breaks my heart when I think about it. I love this guy (NOT Like I love my DH, but if he had been more stable he may have been DH) He and I still have a close connection. He told my DH that if he had been different with me, things would have worked out better between us, and that was one of the biggest mistakes he ever made. IT wasn't a mistake, I just couldn't handle his illness. I'm not the most stable person in the world, and being with him was making me loose it.
I am open and honest about my feelings with DH, and he knows that if he wasn't paranoid skitzophrenia I could very well still be with him. DH Knows I am with him, and that he is the only one for me. Yet I feel slightly guilty. I always figured straight honesty is the best in our relationship. I tell DH every time I talk to him, and how I feel. DH is very understanding, since he was very close to him as well.
I'm slightly sad though. I know there is nothing I can do to help. I can only be positive when I talk to him, and look past the strange things he says. He doesn't push me away like he used to, and he doesn't read into what I say looking for the negative (I think that was what he viewed to be his big mistake).
He was diagnosed very young, and had a vasectomy at 18 I believe, so he wouldn't pass on the genes and make someone else suffer like he does.
Do any of you know anyone who suffers with this? How do you deal with it?
It's hard for me because he is special to me, he always has been since the day I met him, even on the day I broke up with him. It was hard for me, but best for us both. I could see us starting down a bad road and I didn't want to go there.
I just had to kind of vent. It bothers me a lot. I wish there was a cure. I don't ask him about his meds, so I don't know if he is on or off them right now. He's pretty sane for a while, then he goes off the deep end for a while, then he's sane... back and forth. He's one of the most loving people I have ever known in my life, but he pushes people away. His mom had paranoid skitzophrenia and killed herself when he was 12, and he found her. He's had it rough, but he keeps going, and he is very religious, and that helps him.
I was just curious how others deal with it. I don't have to deal with it often, since we don't talk a lot. It just hurts me when he is out there when I talk to him.
Thank you
Be safe.