I am posting here with some hope that I can get some advice.....
Topic: Teenagers and Sex
Background: 14yr old niece came to me and wanted some advice on how she should deal with her BF pressuring her to to give him, well oral you know.....
My Sister has some friends over on New yrs eve, allowed my niece to have some friends over??? Two boys, one being her little BF and another a really good kid, good friend etc....(she had called each of the parents to advise them of alcohol in the house)
Midnight, My sister allowed them to have a small glass of wine and juice to toast with the adults. So My sister allowed them to watch movie and listen to music in her room - 2 floors above her
I am driving with my niece yesterday after seeing the movie Juno (WOW GREAT FLICK BTW~~), and she comes right out and told me that her little Bf pressured her to do this (she said she felt a bit tipsy from the wine), not only that but in front of her other friend in her room. Refused to allow her to well, dispose after...
ISSUE: OMG she doesn't want me to intervene???????? I told her that she is going to say something to him because what he did was wrong, that he had 0 respect for her and probably will not in the future. And with that he will expect her to become sexually active. She is just heading into her second half of gr 9! she is a good kid, not much trouble, but a little naive.
I am lost as to what to do. My gut is telling me to march down there and have a little talk with this kid. She refuses to talk to him, yet feels trapped in a corner. I would tell my sister, but she has a tendency to over react therefore shutting this poor kid up even more. She doesn't trust most adults. I just want her to be safe, responsible and be a KID???
Have any of you faced these issues with your kids? What would you do???
Topic: Teenagers and Sex
Background: 14yr old niece came to me and wanted some advice on how she should deal with her BF pressuring her to to give him, well oral you know.....
My Sister has some friends over on New yrs eve, allowed my niece to have some friends over??? Two boys, one being her little BF and another a really good kid, good friend etc....(she had called each of the parents to advise them of alcohol in the house)
Midnight, My sister allowed them to have a small glass of wine and juice to toast with the adults. So My sister allowed them to watch movie and listen to music in her room - 2 floors above her
I am driving with my niece yesterday after seeing the movie Juno (WOW GREAT FLICK BTW~~), and she comes right out and told me that her little Bf pressured her to do this (she said she felt a bit tipsy from the wine), not only that but in front of her other friend in her room. Refused to allow her to well, dispose after...
ISSUE: OMG she doesn't want me to intervene???????? I told her that she is going to say something to him because what he did was wrong, that he had 0 respect for her and probably will not in the future. And with that he will expect her to become sexually active. She is just heading into her second half of gr 9! she is a good kid, not much trouble, but a little naive.
Have any of you faced these issues with your kids? What would you do???