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Hi,
haven't posted here in a while. I'm back again with the same issues; my male cat is pooing and peeing/spraying in the house. This has been an ongoing battle for most of his life; it seems to get better then resurfaces. We are currently going through the worst I have ever known it, with daily occurrences.
I know for a fact that part of it is down to a stray that has been visiting our home every day since January. This tom cat howls outside our front door twice a day. I have tried to shoo him off, but he keeps coming back. This is making Freddie increasingly anxious and so I know it is a territorial spraying. Conflict with my other cat has also increased (he seems to seek her out to fight?).
The problem is...I can't do anything more than I am doing. I'm trying to sort out getting this cat into a rescue/finding its owner, but what happens when the next stray comes around?
I have tried the suggestions from the vets; we have litter trays, they are cleaned daily - but he refuses to use them. He has safe spots to sleep (I cleared the top of our wardrobe and he likes it up there). Both cats are fed separately in different rooms.
I'm at my wits end. To top it off, we are expecting our first child in November. I cannot have a cat that soils on soft bedding/furniture with a newborn. Its not feasible
The vet has suggested a behaviourist, which tbh is just not something I can afford with a baby on the way and impending reduced income.
I feel defeated. I have had Freddie since he was 4 months old. He will be 5 in July. I cannot cope with his behaviour and no longer know what to do other than rehoming him (which upsets me more than I can say, I've been sobbing most of the evening over the thought of it).
I know this seems to be more about me and how I feel; please understand I don't want to be that owner who ditches their pet because it is no longer convenient but I don't know what to do. He isn't happy. The impending arrival of a screaming infant is probably going to make things a lot worse given his anxious nature and things are already getting to breaking point.
What more can I do? Please help!
haven't posted here in a while. I'm back again with the same issues; my male cat is pooing and peeing/spraying in the house. This has been an ongoing battle for most of his life; it seems to get better then resurfaces. We are currently going through the worst I have ever known it, with daily occurrences.
I know for a fact that part of it is down to a stray that has been visiting our home every day since January. This tom cat howls outside our front door twice a day. I have tried to shoo him off, but he keeps coming back. This is making Freddie increasingly anxious and so I know it is a territorial spraying. Conflict with my other cat has also increased (he seems to seek her out to fight?).
The problem is...I can't do anything more than I am doing. I'm trying to sort out getting this cat into a rescue/finding its owner, but what happens when the next stray comes around?
I have tried the suggestions from the vets; we have litter trays, they are cleaned daily - but he refuses to use them. He has safe spots to sleep (I cleared the top of our wardrobe and he likes it up there). Both cats are fed separately in different rooms.
I'm at my wits end. To top it off, we are expecting our first child in November. I cannot have a cat that soils on soft bedding/furniture with a newborn. Its not feasible
The vet has suggested a behaviourist, which tbh is just not something I can afford with a baby on the way and impending reduced income.
I feel defeated. I have had Freddie since he was 4 months old. He will be 5 in July. I cannot cope with his behaviour and no longer know what to do other than rehoming him (which upsets me more than I can say, I've been sobbing most of the evening over the thought of it).
I know this seems to be more about me and how I feel; please understand I don't want to be that owner who ditches their pet because it is no longer convenient but I don't know what to do. He isn't happy. The impending arrival of a screaming infant is probably going to make things a lot worse given his anxious nature and things are already getting to breaking point.
What more can I do? Please help!