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Good point. Hopefully we don't have to worry about that right now. She's shown no interest in the computer, and isn't alone ever right now. She should be checking into detox within a day or two, so won't have access to the computer for a month.Originally Posted by hissy
also if she does get on your computer, what if she stumbles across this thread? How much damage would that do to what you are trying to establish with this person?
Of course there are many, many issues and questions. I worry about the best way to handle things, but whether or not, in the end, she sees this thread isn't an overwhelming concern. She seems to be incredibly mature for her age in certain respects - of course, she's been forced to grow up in a way that many aren't. But with her renewed incredibly positive outlook on life, and the hope and compassion that has obviously always burned inside of her, if she did happen to stumble on this thread, I'm pretty sure she'd discuss it with us and appreciate it for what it is. We love her to bits, we're doing everything we can to reinforce her knowledge of that. We've made our commitment and continue to prove it to her again and again - and as someone who was asking for prayers for her, and reaching out to share with others the wonder that is happening around us - I don't know that it would do that much damage.
We certainly discuss with our friends and family on the phone what's going on, and she's been around for that for the past few days. While she's ashamed of her heroine addiction, we're really working on that with her, and it is what it is. She knows we're discussing it with others, and she's said it's OK. In fact, she's been getting on and saying "hi" to people. So it's not like she's in the dark about the fact that we're sharing with people close to us what's going on. It's just that this being in "black and white" so to speak, and over a period of time - it might feel quite different than the on-going phone conversations. I think it wasn't an issue so much of my talking about her in the third person, although I think it would be better if she chose the time and place to discuss the deeper details of her life with others, some of which I shared here - I was also more concerned about her reading the stuff that, as Stefanie put it, was written to me, not for her, not so much what I've been writing - except, as I mentioned, some of the details - which, perhaps, it would have been better had I not shared.
On the other hand, TCS is such a "safe" place, and that's why I come here and why I share. So that in and of itself could be something valuable, and this entire discussion instructive and not hurtful. No way to know!