Vinceneilsgirl I donâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t know where to begin so if I ramble Iâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]m sorry. Also this is just my opinions. Iâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]m no expert.
I hope you can learn to like and accept who you are, and maybe laugh at your quirks. We all have them. Please stop beating yourself up.
Here are some site to help with the hair twisting.
http://www.trich.org/home/default.asp?FC=3182851
http://www.trich.org/v1/whatis.htm
http://www.nmha.org/infoctr/factsheets/92.cfm
http://www.vh.org/adult/patient/psyc...chotillomania/
Every home needs someone in charge clearly your parents were unable to handle this. So you did what you needed to do to function in that house, you took control. Now your having a hard time with thing that you can't control but the outcome would effect you significantly. In this situation your Angel dieing in her sleep, it has happen in the past with Haley. Yes it could happen, but not likely at this point in Angelâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]s life.My best friend has a psych degree and she says that comes from growing up in a house with drug addicted/alcoholic parents. I had to become a control freak because of all the chaos around me.
In the home you grew up in only way to emotionally survive was by being in total control. It sound like you did a great job. Now to manage in the world you need to find a balance between control and letting go.But this feels different. I really have no control over this. I'll tell myself; "Angel is fine, don't wake her"...and then 2 seconds later another thought will come that says; "If you don't wake her she'll die in her sleep". It was the same thing with Haley. And when I twist in my hair its so comforting I can't stop, and feel like if I don't something bad will happen.
This touch me a lot. I too grew up in a home that was far less that perfect. My life felt out of control and yes I spend years hating myself. I spend years dealing with old stuff. In the end the only thing I still regret is the years I spend hating myself. What a waste of my life and time. I not perfect and that is ok.OK I'm crying now. I'm an awful person because I can't control myself.
I hope you can learn to like and accept who you are, and maybe laugh at your quirks. We all have them. Please stop beating yourself up.
Here are some site to help with the hair twisting.
http://www.trich.org/home/default.asp?FC=3182851
http://www.trich.org/v1/whatis.htm
http://www.nmha.org/infoctr/factsheets/92.cfm
http://www.vh.org/adult/patient/psyc...chotillomania/