Hello all!
My partner and I recently adopted a female kitten a month or two ago (she's just about 8 months now, and spayed), and while she and our older male cat Jinx (who is about 8 or 9 years old, and is neutered) have been doing well acclimating to one another and we've been introducing them properly, we've also noticed some behavior we're not sure whether to let play out or to scold for and put a stop to.
The main concern is that Jinx has recently started to scruff and pin her. I've seen a few posts about situations like this, both on this site and others, but I just wanted to get a bit of more specific advice for our situation.
Harley, our kitten, doesn't seem to mind half the time, or at the least is just kind of uncomfortable and stays still, but then will cry and hiss the other half. She is a bit obnoxious as most kittens are, and doesn't really have good boundaries yet which does lead to some of these interactions as it's clear Jinx gets annoyed with her, but other times he will just walk up to her unprovoked and pin her.
They do play together (despite his mid age, Jinx is a very playful / energetic cat, which is why we decided on a kitten as opposed to a slightly older cat), and though I haven't seen them doing so for long, they have been grooming one another and have otherwise no issue spending time in the same space. Harley also doesn't seem to be afraid of him, or impacted negatively by this behavior beyond just clearly not liking it as it occurs.
I also don't know how much of a grain of salt I should take her complaints with, because she's a very. Spirited calico, and growls and sometimes hisses about Anything she can't have/do that she wants (for example, most of all if it's food related, regardless of whose it is, or if she cannot under any circumstances have any (namely chocolate)). I don't doubt she's uncomfortable at the least with his behavior, and it doesn't look very nice either, but she really has no manners with anyone in the house (people or pets).
I've seen people say that this can be an extension of play fighting and setting boundaries/corrections and teaching the kitten manners, and I've also seen people say it can be dominance or mating behaviors even with neutered / spayed cats. I can't imagine it's very pleasant for Harley and I want to make sure that she's not being made to feel insecure/distressed (especially as prior she had started to have an unrelated behavioral issue with peeing that we're trying to prevent from being a permanent problem, and Jinx is a very jealous cat), but at the same time if Jinx is just setting boundaries with her, I don't want to scold him for doing that (especially Because Harley can be objectively annoying, as kittens can be, and keep pushing boundaries / pestering, and it would do her well to learn from another cat what appropriate social behavior is. Though I also imagine some of her pushing on boundaries so much will calm a bit as she ages).
If anyone has thoughts or opinions, I would love to hear it! Most of all on whether you think we should let this behavior continue if she doesn't cry, or if we should distract/stop him when he does this.
My partner and I recently adopted a female kitten a month or two ago (she's just about 8 months now, and spayed), and while she and our older male cat Jinx (who is about 8 or 9 years old, and is neutered) have been doing well acclimating to one another and we've been introducing them properly, we've also noticed some behavior we're not sure whether to let play out or to scold for and put a stop to.
The main concern is that Jinx has recently started to scruff and pin her. I've seen a few posts about situations like this, both on this site and others, but I just wanted to get a bit of more specific advice for our situation.
Harley, our kitten, doesn't seem to mind half the time, or at the least is just kind of uncomfortable and stays still, but then will cry and hiss the other half. She is a bit obnoxious as most kittens are, and doesn't really have good boundaries yet which does lead to some of these interactions as it's clear Jinx gets annoyed with her, but other times he will just walk up to her unprovoked and pin her.
They do play together (despite his mid age, Jinx is a very playful / energetic cat, which is why we decided on a kitten as opposed to a slightly older cat), and though I haven't seen them doing so for long, they have been grooming one another and have otherwise no issue spending time in the same space. Harley also doesn't seem to be afraid of him, or impacted negatively by this behavior beyond just clearly not liking it as it occurs.
I also don't know how much of a grain of salt I should take her complaints with, because she's a very. Spirited calico, and growls and sometimes hisses about Anything she can't have/do that she wants (for example, most of all if it's food related, regardless of whose it is, or if she cannot under any circumstances have any (namely chocolate)). I don't doubt she's uncomfortable at the least with his behavior, and it doesn't look very nice either, but she really has no manners with anyone in the house (people or pets).
I've seen people say that this can be an extension of play fighting and setting boundaries/corrections and teaching the kitten manners, and I've also seen people say it can be dominance or mating behaviors even with neutered / spayed cats. I can't imagine it's very pleasant for Harley and I want to make sure that she's not being made to feel insecure/distressed (especially as prior she had started to have an unrelated behavioral issue with peeing that we're trying to prevent from being a permanent problem, and Jinx is a very jealous cat), but at the same time if Jinx is just setting boundaries with her, I don't want to scold him for doing that (especially Because Harley can be objectively annoying, as kittens can be, and keep pushing boundaries / pestering, and it would do her well to learn from another cat what appropriate social behavior is. Though I also imagine some of her pushing on boundaries so much will calm a bit as she ages).
If anyone has thoughts or opinions, I would love to hear it! Most of all on whether you think we should let this behavior continue if she doesn't cry, or if we should distract/stop him when he does this.