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Calvin and Hobbes have recently started biting the back of each other's neck (the nape) and practically mounting the other. Both of them do this. I understand that this is sexual aggression and I am trying to do whatever I can to minimize tension at home. I have 2 feliway diffusers running and am using the spray too but I do not see much effect. Yesterday, I was looking online and it seems that gentle scruffing may be appropriate for this. I do not tend to bother much when they wrestle or chase each other like crazy but I understand that this is different. So I looked at videos and very gently scruffed Calvin today when he was "mounting" Hobbes. I was extremely gentle but then I let go very fast and Calvin moved and the hissed at me a few times and was mad. After that Hobbes was going at Calvin and I again, very gently scruffed him and he did not show his displeasure like Calvin but then after a while was again at Calvin. What should I do in this situation? Hobbes has multiple health issues and I would like the home to be as conflict-free as possible. Is it ok to scruff them? What else can to do to keep this sort of sexual aggression to a minimum?
Background: Calvin and Hobbes, though had a rocky start, came to be buddies. They are both 1 year old neutered males. I have not been able to figure out if one is the alpha but if I am forced to choose, I'd say it's Calvin. Hobbes arrived later and during the intro phase took a lot of beating from Calvin. Calvin has always been jealous and hates it if we play with Hobbes and he wants whatever toy Hobbes is playing with and attacks Hobbes if he finds Hobbes getting cuddles from us. In fact if Hobbes sees Calvin coming into the room when he's on top of us kneading, he promptly gets off the bed. We make special time for Hobbes for play and love. We also always come home and pay attention to Calvin first. To us, we are giving them equal attention. They lick each other and often times when Hobbes has an asthma attack, Calvin will gently lick his forehead after and also he nicer to him then. They do not cuddle as much as they used to, though.
Background: Calvin and Hobbes, though had a rocky start, came to be buddies. They are both 1 year old neutered males. I have not been able to figure out if one is the alpha but if I am forced to choose, I'd say it's Calvin. Hobbes arrived later and during the intro phase took a lot of beating from Calvin. Calvin has always been jealous and hates it if we play with Hobbes and he wants whatever toy Hobbes is playing with and attacks Hobbes if he finds Hobbes getting cuddles from us. In fact if Hobbes sees Calvin coming into the room when he's on top of us kneading, he promptly gets off the bed. We make special time for Hobbes for play and love. We also always come home and pay attention to Calvin first. To us, we are giving them equal attention. They lick each other and often times when Hobbes has an asthma attack, Calvin will gently lick his forehead after and also he nicer to him then. They do not cuddle as much as they used to, though.