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Back in July my partner and I adopted a one and a half year old female cat, Nicky. She is our first cat and was very easy to settle in; no behavioral problems and very laid back and all round an absolutely lovely personality! We adopted Nicky from a shelter. She was there with three kittens, all about four months old. Two months later, the kittens were still at the shelter, and, having decided to adopt a second cat, we decided it made sense to take on one of Nicky's kittens, now around six months old.
We've now had the new cat, Toby, a week. Unfortunately, Nicky hasn't taken too kindly to us taking on Toby - whenever she catches sight of him she hisses and growls, and she has also hit him with her paw. She has also been quite aloof with me and my partner and sometimes moves away when we try to pet her. She has also had some episodes of pooing and weeing outside her litter tray, although we seem to have solved his by moving it. We've tried the usual cat introduction tactics such as getting them to eat either side of an ajar door but I don't feel we're making amazing progress. Toby doesn't seem bothered by Nicky hissing at him; every time he sees her he wants to go over and say hello and is quite unafraid, even if she hits him with her paw.
The other problem we have is that Toby is both clingy and nervy; he runs away from us when he sees us but when we calm him down he is very loving and can't get enough of our attention. When we have to shut him in a room (which we do at night, and we also have to separate him and Nicky in the day qwhile we are at worl) he meows and cries incessantly. I'm sure part if this is becuse he is a young cat, but I am questioning if we are the right home for Toby, as we are both out at work from 8.30-4pm everyday and can't give him the attention I think he needs, which is even harder to give because we have to keep him apart from Nicky - unfortunately the geography of our house means that whichever cat is confined just gets shut in a room, rather than having several to roam.
Does anyone have any tips of advice in this situation? Are we the wrong owners for a cat of Toby's age? I imagine having a such a young cat is always hard, but is it too much for us given that we are also handling reintroducing him to his mum? Any words much appreciated!
We've now had the new cat, Toby, a week. Unfortunately, Nicky hasn't taken too kindly to us taking on Toby - whenever she catches sight of him she hisses and growls, and she has also hit him with her paw. She has also been quite aloof with me and my partner and sometimes moves away when we try to pet her. She has also had some episodes of pooing and weeing outside her litter tray, although we seem to have solved his by moving it. We've tried the usual cat introduction tactics such as getting them to eat either side of an ajar door but I don't feel we're making amazing progress. Toby doesn't seem bothered by Nicky hissing at him; every time he sees her he wants to go over and say hello and is quite unafraid, even if she hits him with her paw.
The other problem we have is that Toby is both clingy and nervy; he runs away from us when he sees us but when we calm him down he is very loving and can't get enough of our attention. When we have to shut him in a room (which we do at night, and we also have to separate him and Nicky in the day qwhile we are at worl) he meows and cries incessantly. I'm sure part if this is becuse he is a young cat, but I am questioning if we are the right home for Toby, as we are both out at work from 8.30-4pm everyday and can't give him the attention I think he needs, which is even harder to give because we have to keep him apart from Nicky - unfortunately the geography of our house means that whichever cat is confined just gets shut in a room, rather than having several to roam.
Does anyone have any tips of advice in this situation? Are we the wrong owners for a cat of Toby's age? I imagine having a such a young cat is always hard, but is it too much for us given that we are also handling reintroducing him to his mum? Any words much appreciated!