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I have a cat, a 16 month old fixed male, who is very 'emotionally dependent' on my husband and me. So much so that it is causing problems. He goes through phases and right now he is in one of the worst yet. Last night was the third night in a row that he woke us up ( no cats in the bedroom) by crying and scratching at the door between midnight and 3 am. He usually calms down once we go out of the room and he sees us, he will be fine until morning (5:30 to 6:30)... at which point he does it again. He follows us from room to room and is constantly under foot or rubbing on our legs. We cannot sit down without him trying to climb into our laps to sleep(mine in particular). This morning I broke down and literally carried him around while I did my chores one handed... he purred the whole time and nearly fell asleep because he was so happy. It may sound like a dream come true to have such a loving cat... but it is also very frustrating and we need to figure out a way to calm him down a bit... at least at night.
I was doing some reading about other needy cats on this site, but most of them seem to be 'only cats' or 'new cats'... our guy is neither.He has been ours since the day he was born; his mom gave birth on our patio and we ended up keeping her, him and one of the baby girls. They are all very well behaved and all love attention.. we think they may be part ragamuffin based on their behavior and size. They all get along and love to play with each other.
Some of the posts suggest boredom is the cause- they have many toys, a lovely tall cat tree in front of a window, and a bird feeder in another with a chair so they can watch it easily. We don't let them outside alone, but we do take them out on leashes in warmer weather. I don't think it is boredom.
Other posts suggest stress... I suspect this because his behavior is always worse after we are away or when we are gone for most of the day. We were gone for three days for Thanksgiving and have had several very busy days since we got back. We give him tons of love when we get home to try and make up for it, but he is almost desperate for us no matter what we do.
I am wondering if anyone has suggestions for getting him to calm his emotional dependency. We can't seem to think of anything other than staying home with him all day every day... which isn't going to happen... no matter how cute his little face is
Seriously though- any suggestions are appreciated!
I was doing some reading about other needy cats on this site, but most of them seem to be 'only cats' or 'new cats'... our guy is neither.He has been ours since the day he was born; his mom gave birth on our patio and we ended up keeping her, him and one of the baby girls. They are all very well behaved and all love attention.. we think they may be part ragamuffin based on their behavior and size. They all get along and love to play with each other.
Some of the posts suggest boredom is the cause- they have many toys, a lovely tall cat tree in front of a window, and a bird feeder in another with a chair so they can watch it easily. We don't let them outside alone, but we do take them out on leashes in warmer weather. I don't think it is boredom.
Other posts suggest stress... I suspect this because his behavior is always worse after we are away or when we are gone for most of the day. We were gone for three days for Thanksgiving and have had several very busy days since we got back. We give him tons of love when we get home to try and make up for it, but he is almost desperate for us no matter what we do.
I am wondering if anyone has suggestions for getting him to calm his emotional dependency. We can't seem to think of anything other than staying home with him all day every day... which isn't going to happen... no matter how cute his little face is
Seriously though- any suggestions are appreciated!