today is the day that my mom takes my step father into a nursing home..for respite care - which is 2 weeks. I'm gonna be on pins and needles until I find out what's happening with him. For those of you who don't know the story..my stepfather has dementia/alzheimers..its kinda hard to tell which..and well..its about time he made it to a home even if it is only for 2 weeks. She needs a break..he no longer makes any real sense when talking to you, she had to hide the mirrors in the house that she could because..well he started talking to himself in the mirrors..and now...knocking on the mirror..asking to come in...so...thats not really good. She has to follow him to the bathroom...because well..lets just say he found some new places to..um..pee..etc..
She does work still but can't go anywhere else without taking him with her..(she gets homecare during the day) and he gets confused if he's out of the house for too long..and even when she brings him home..he cries to her to take him home...
he's dozed off on the couch more then once, woke up and introduced himself to her and asked her who she was...
He knows who I am..but doesn't remember my name any longer...
I really don't know how this is going to go over...he doesn't really know that he's going to be somewhere for 2 weeks...
It may be good for him though..because he'll have people to talk to...and not just the home care worker...
He just basically sits at the kitchen table all day now..doing..not much...they've tried to get him to do jigsaw puzzles or something..but he can't figure it out..he can't read..anymore. tv doesn't interest him..he doesn't remember how to use that pool table in the basement...
its so sad to watch. He used to be the life of the party so to speak..outgoing..happy all the time...and well..now..you can't even see who he is anymore....I used to visit quite often..and now...i'm finding it extremely hard to go there...I don't understand most of what he's saying (he's reverting back to his original language which is croation)...you have to keep telling him to speak english...
but apparently his 2 friends that still come to see him...out of the many he had....tell me he's not making sense in croation either...and its hard to watch a grown man cry...
She does work still but can't go anywhere else without taking him with her..(she gets homecare during the day) and he gets confused if he's out of the house for too long..and even when she brings him home..he cries to her to take him home...
he's dozed off on the couch more then once, woke up and introduced himself to her and asked her who she was...
He knows who I am..but doesn't remember my name any longer...
I really don't know how this is going to go over...he doesn't really know that he's going to be somewhere for 2 weeks...
It may be good for him though..because he'll have people to talk to...and not just the home care worker...
He just basically sits at the kitchen table all day now..doing..not much...they've tried to get him to do jigsaw puzzles or something..but he can't figure it out..he can't read..anymore. tv doesn't interest him..he doesn't remember how to use that pool table in the basement...
its so sad to watch. He used to be the life of the party so to speak..outgoing..happy all the time...and well..now..you can't even see who he is anymore....I used to visit quite often..and now...i'm finding it extremely hard to go there...I don't understand most of what he's saying (he's reverting back to his original language which is croation)...you have to keep telling him to speak english...
but apparently his 2 friends that still come to see him...out of the many he had....tell me he's not making sense in croation either...and its hard to watch a grown man cry...