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I have 2 kittens - about 8 months old (boy) and 10 months old (girl). My girl kitten is very mellow, laid-back, and calm. She plays some but if she does it's usually more hunt/stalk than tearing around. My boy kitten is a Siamese mix and very energetic. He gets his zoomies and when he plays it's usually wild and all-out. Boy kitten tries to engage girl kitten in some play and she shows no signs of wanting to engage. So sometimes in his wild moments, he will just jump on her and be way too rough in his biting and such. Even though he's younger, he's heavy and all muscle. Our girl is more petite and since she's more lazy she's not as strong as he is. We know he's showing his dominance because sometimes he'll jump on her when she's just sitting still or even sleeping. We are trying to nip this in the bud. When we see him staring at her, we try to redirect him. He will often let her be when we remind him (he has poor impulses!). When he's really wild or attacking her, we put him in another room by himself to gather himself. After even 5 min or so we let him out and he's usually better and does his own thing. Sometimes I think he's be dominant and other times I think he's just trying to get her to play with him. Sometimes he'll wait until night time because mom and dad aren't around to interfere. I have been reading ALL the articles on this behavior and even threads here and know I'm not alone in this. I worry that it might not get better or that it could even get worse. But I was hoping to hear from people who have been through this and that it can get better! Just need some hope that this isn't our life forever. I totally get that they may never be besties but I just hope he'll give up on the attacks since it's not nice. I also feel a bit bad for our girl and hope she isn't too stressed.
I have 2 kittens - about 8 months old (boy) and 10 months old (girl). My girl kitten is very mellow, laid-back, and calm. She plays some but if she does it's usually more hunt/stalk than tearing around. My boy kitten is a Siamese mix and very energetic. He gets his zoomies and when he plays it's usually wild and all-out. Boy kitten tries to engage girl kitten in some play and she shows no signs of wanting to engage. So sometimes in his wild moments, he will just jump on her and be way too rough in his biting and such. Even though he's younger, he's heavy and all muscle. Our girl is more petite and since she's more lazy she's not as strong as he is. We know he's showing his dominance because sometimes he'll jump on her when she's just sitting still or even sleeping. We are trying to nip this in the bud. When we see him staring at her, we try to redirect him. He will often let her be when we remind him (he has poor impulses!). When he's really wild or attacking her, we put him in another room by himself to gather himself. After even 5 min or so we let him out and he's usually better and does his own thing. Sometimes I think he's be dominant and other times I think he's just trying to get her to play with him. Sometimes he'll wait until night time because mom and dad aren't around to interfere. I have been reading ALL the articles on this behavior and even threads here and know I'm not alone in this. I worry that it might not get better or that it could even get worse. But I was hoping to hear from people who have been through this and that it can get better! Just need some hope that this isn't our life forever. I totally get that they may never be besties but I just hope he'll give up on the attacks since it's not nice. I also feel a bit bad for our girl and hope she isn't too stressed.
But with this case, I don't think it is equal. He's always the one on top and I don't think he's that gentle. Or at least he doesn't know how pointy his teeth are and that he's going to hard. They DO sometimes sleep next to each other but sometimes he'll just try to get her to move and take her spot. But it's not always tense - they can walk by one another with no hissing or anything. I do feel like he is definitely the annoying brother who likes to roughhouse and she's just above that nonsense.
