So, I got in a fight with one of my houseguests as she was leaving...she yelled at me and called me a control freak.
I was venting to Ian about the whole debacle and he offered this advice: "well, maybe you ARE a control freak"
So I googled it. It seems like to be a bona-fide control freak, you have to be constantly critical of everyone around you and try to field-marshall them into doing things to validate yourself, among other things.
Things that worry me in terms of possibly needing to see someone about this?:
-where my kits are involved...I don't tend to trust other people. At all. I am a nervous wreck when I leave them with someone else, even for a few hours. I just don't feel like other people can take care of them and I'm always worried that they won't be as paranoid about them getting outside as I am. When I leave the house, I am ALWAYS worried that one will get out and get lost.
-I also can't do group projects at school. I tend to just get really fliipant and do the whole thing myself.
-I hate letting other people drive my car. I get SO NERVOUS that they'll total it. Driving with other people in other cars is fine, though.
-I will admit to criticising a few of my "friends" (read: acqaintences), however, these particular friends have habits like shoplifting, substance abuse, codependent relationships, relationships built soley on sex, failing classes, partying to the point of irresponsibility, etc. They tell me to "lighten up", but I really feel like it's difficult to trust someone with my stuff who has a history of stealing things, for instance.
-I get stressed out really easily.
-I'm a neat freak...I don't do well with living with anyone who is anything but a fellow neat freak.
-I get really peaved when people are late.
So...is it true? You can be totally honest with me and give me suggestions...I'm hurting for them, apparently. I need to know whether to take this seriously...it's something that could hurt my relationships for the rest of my life.
I was venting to Ian about the whole debacle and he offered this advice: "well, maybe you ARE a control freak"
So I googled it. It seems like to be a bona-fide control freak, you have to be constantly critical of everyone around you and try to field-marshall them into doing things to validate yourself, among other things.
Things that worry me in terms of possibly needing to see someone about this?:
-where my kits are involved...I don't tend to trust other people. At all. I am a nervous wreck when I leave them with someone else, even for a few hours. I just don't feel like other people can take care of them and I'm always worried that they won't be as paranoid about them getting outside as I am. When I leave the house, I am ALWAYS worried that one will get out and get lost.
-I also can't do group projects at school. I tend to just get really fliipant and do the whole thing myself.
-I hate letting other people drive my car. I get SO NERVOUS that they'll total it. Driving with other people in other cars is fine, though.
-I will admit to criticising a few of my "friends" (read: acqaintences), however, these particular friends have habits like shoplifting, substance abuse, codependent relationships, relationships built soley on sex, failing classes, partying to the point of irresponsibility, etc. They tell me to "lighten up", but I really feel like it's difficult to trust someone with my stuff who has a history of stealing things, for instance.
-I get stressed out really easily.
-I'm a neat freak...I don't do well with living with anyone who is anything but a fellow neat freak.
-I get really peaved when people are late.
So...is it true? You can be totally honest with me and give me suggestions...I'm hurting for them, apparently. I need to know whether to take this seriously...it's something that could hurt my relationships for the rest of my life.