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I’m a retired guy living alone in a small house out here in Suffolk County, Long Island New York. Began feeding a cat who started coming around my backyard in the summer of 2012. There were actually several cats coming around, but “Carsten” (what I eventually named her) soon became my favorite. She actually seemed to stake out my backyard/patio area for herself.. occasionally fighting off the other cats (who I also sort of discouraged too LOL). Carsten and I sort of developed a relationship. She would come and stand on or near the patio..would stare through the window at me when I was in the kitchen.. it was almost like she was saying “why don’t you get out here and leave me some food already !” …I would open the door, talk to her, and put out her food. Sometimes she would hang around most of the day..(and I would give her more food eventually)..and sometimes she’d just eat and run…one thing though, Carsten would always keep her distance from me.. about five feet…usually wouldn’t come for her food until I went back inside…obviously very afraid of people. Occasionally I would sit outside near the back door and leave the food farther away…sometimes then she would eat with me there, but she always seemed wary and suspicious..kept looking up at me to make sure I kept my distance !!!
When she stopped coming around in the winter..I naturally wondered what happened to her….wished then I had maybe tried to take her in… was really happy to see her when she appeared again in the spring of 2013 …glad she had somehow survived the winter (how do they do that ??) …decided this year at some point I would try to take her in and hopefully “domesticate” her..had actually been thinking of adopting a rescue cat from a shelter, but could not do that without first giving Carsten a chance…
Did some research.. obviously trying to domesticate a feral/stray is a very big commitment and requires LOTS of patience.. and time.
Fortunately, there is a lady in the development I live in who I befriended that apparently feeds or knows people who feed/care for all the local outdoor strays and ferals.. was told by her that Carsten had in fact once been an indoor cat but several years ago was set free by her owner(s).. (or possibly escaped) ..apparently they had gotten a dog and the two were not getting along…also have a feeling she may have been mistreated in some way… Carsten has since then been roaming the streets around here for several years… and somehow survived…she also at some point in the past few years had been trapped, spayed, and set free again..ear clipped..(this later was confirmed by a vet)..
On November 11th 2013, with some help I finally trapped her in a humane trap and immediately brought her to the vet. He confirmed her gender, age (approx 8-10), the fact she had been spayed, and gave her appropriate shots. While at the vet she would not let herself be handled at all though..had to be sedated..brought her home and set her up in an unused empty bedroom…her “safe” spot in the room is the carrier I had used to bring her back from the vet…it is soft sided with a fleece bottom, very comfortable for her. Carsten had no problem with using the liter box I have in with her, which kind of confirms the fact she had once been an indoor cat. Also put some cat toys in the room, as well as a little carpet covered table that I put near the window hoping she would at some point climb on and be able to look outside. I put in a cat bed too, but up to now she has ignored it, preferring the carrier.
It’s been about seven weeks now. Been following the advice I read by trying to get her GRADUALLY used to me by using food. I go into her room twice a day..put out food (boy, does she aet well !) I give her wet food mixed with chicken pieces, sardines, or both)..will stay in room and wait for her to come out of her carrier/safe place to eat which she does, reluctantly. While she’s eating I try to sometimes talk to her in a calming gentle voice… but she still seems SOOOOO afraid of me though.. am sure she would prefer I just left the room and let her eat alone, but I won’t do that…she gets to within 2-3 feet of me while she’s eating…and quickly returns back to her carrier when done..
A few other observations about her..she never meows..she only occasionally ventures out of her safe spot/carrier to explore her room…(I peek in several time a day, lol …). Also won’t drink water..have to give her skim milk mixed with water to get her to drink....
Wondering what if anything now I should be doing…at some point would like to give her the run of the house, but since she is still so very afraid/wary of me feel maybe still it’s too soon to attempt that. Also wonder if I’ve done the right thing for her…would she be happier outside (although she is certainly safer indoors) especially in the cold winter months…..ANY ADVICE/SUGGESTIONS WOULD BE GREATLY APPRECIATED..
When she stopped coming around in the winter..I naturally wondered what happened to her….wished then I had maybe tried to take her in… was really happy to see her when she appeared again in the spring of 2013 …glad she had somehow survived the winter (how do they do that ??) …decided this year at some point I would try to take her in and hopefully “domesticate” her..had actually been thinking of adopting a rescue cat from a shelter, but could not do that without first giving Carsten a chance…
Did some research.. obviously trying to domesticate a feral/stray is a very big commitment and requires LOTS of patience.. and time.
Fortunately, there is a lady in the development I live in who I befriended that apparently feeds or knows people who feed/care for all the local outdoor strays and ferals.. was told by her that Carsten had in fact once been an indoor cat but several years ago was set free by her owner(s).. (or possibly escaped) ..apparently they had gotten a dog and the two were not getting along…also have a feeling she may have been mistreated in some way… Carsten has since then been roaming the streets around here for several years… and somehow survived…she also at some point in the past few years had been trapped, spayed, and set free again..ear clipped..(this later was confirmed by a vet)..
On November 11th 2013, with some help I finally trapped her in a humane trap and immediately brought her to the vet. He confirmed her gender, age (approx 8-10), the fact she had been spayed, and gave her appropriate shots. While at the vet she would not let herself be handled at all though..had to be sedated..brought her home and set her up in an unused empty bedroom…her “safe” spot in the room is the carrier I had used to bring her back from the vet…it is soft sided with a fleece bottom, very comfortable for her. Carsten had no problem with using the liter box I have in with her, which kind of confirms the fact she had once been an indoor cat. Also put some cat toys in the room, as well as a little carpet covered table that I put near the window hoping she would at some point climb on and be able to look outside. I put in a cat bed too, but up to now she has ignored it, preferring the carrier.
It’s been about seven weeks now. Been following the advice I read by trying to get her GRADUALLY used to me by using food. I go into her room twice a day..put out food (boy, does she aet well !) I give her wet food mixed with chicken pieces, sardines, or both)..will stay in room and wait for her to come out of her carrier/safe place to eat which she does, reluctantly. While she’s eating I try to sometimes talk to her in a calming gentle voice… but she still seems SOOOOO afraid of me though.. am sure she would prefer I just left the room and let her eat alone, but I won’t do that…she gets to within 2-3 feet of me while she’s eating…and quickly returns back to her carrier when done..
A few other observations about her..she never meows..she only occasionally ventures out of her safe spot/carrier to explore her room…(I peek in several time a day, lol …). Also won’t drink water..have to give her skim milk mixed with water to get her to drink....
Wondering what if anything now I should be doing…at some point would like to give her the run of the house, but since she is still so very afraid/wary of me feel maybe still it’s too soon to attempt that. Also wonder if I’ve done the right thing for her…would she be happier outside (although she is certainly safer indoors) especially in the cold winter months…..ANY ADVICE/SUGGESTIONS WOULD BE GREATLY APPRECIATED..