Hello.
I am on this forum/site for some serious help with some issues that I have about cats.
I have been dating this absolutely wonderful girl for the past 2 years, and I want her to move into my home..... but, I just can't stand her 2 cats! Sure they are great, cute and stuff, but ... every time I leave her apartement, I feel itchy and scratchy.... I feel that my clothes are covered in cat hair (and she cleans her place all the time, but face it, cat hair is always there...everywhere). I leave my leather breifcase on the floor, the cats try to open it, they use my coat to go throw the sleeves.... and they kidnapped my scarf.
The cats, well... they are independent, sometimes they like me, sometimes they don't, ... I am pretty much convinced they hate me, because my gf stays at my place (maybe 2-3days a week) and when ever I am at my gf's apt, the cats get less attention from her.
When I stay at my gf's place, the cats get jealous, and start meowing in the middle of the night, and start scratching at her door and want to come into the bedroom, my gf is constantly having to get up in the middle of the night to feed them or calm them down...etc... it seems to be a burdon, so I don't even want to go to my gf's place anymore to spend the night.
The cats have pretty much "carte blanche" in her apt, they go anywhere; on the counters, tables, chairs, knock over plants, they poop in the litter box, it stinks up the place no matter how clean the litter box is, the wet food she feeds the cats makes me want to gag (she spends $5 for a small can of cat food, and buys $1 can tuna for herself... the cats eat better than her)...its a real zoo in there.
I have a dog, and my gf loves my dog. In fact, she even takes my dog for long walks, brings it to her place cause she likes his company, plays tricks, the dog gets along with the cats. My dog is very well trained, it does not eat furniture, will not go into my bedroom or jump into my bed unless I tell him to...he doesn't poop or pee all over the place...etc... I can leave my home in peace, and know when I get back, my shoes, furniture, artwork, paintings, crystal collection are all safe and same as when i left.
I am scared that with her cats moving to my place,.... its going to be a total disaster...and well... its going to be a problem in my relationship. My gf already senses this... and well... she doesn't want to move in with me anymore because she knows I have an issue with her cats.
so how do i get over this? How can I start to like these cats? How can I deal with this? Has anyone else ever been in such a situation?
I am on this forum/site for some serious help with some issues that I have about cats.
I have been dating this absolutely wonderful girl for the past 2 years, and I want her to move into my home..... but, I just can't stand her 2 cats! Sure they are great, cute and stuff, but ... every time I leave her apartement, I feel itchy and scratchy.... I feel that my clothes are covered in cat hair (and she cleans her place all the time, but face it, cat hair is always there...everywhere). I leave my leather breifcase on the floor, the cats try to open it, they use my coat to go throw the sleeves.... and they kidnapped my scarf.
The cats, well... they are independent, sometimes they like me, sometimes they don't, ... I am pretty much convinced they hate me, because my gf stays at my place (maybe 2-3days a week) and when ever I am at my gf's apt, the cats get less attention from her.
When I stay at my gf's place, the cats get jealous, and start meowing in the middle of the night, and start scratching at her door and want to come into the bedroom, my gf is constantly having to get up in the middle of the night to feed them or calm them down...etc... it seems to be a burdon, so I don't even want to go to my gf's place anymore to spend the night.
The cats have pretty much "carte blanche" in her apt, they go anywhere; on the counters, tables, chairs, knock over plants, they poop in the litter box, it stinks up the place no matter how clean the litter box is, the wet food she feeds the cats makes me want to gag (she spends $5 for a small can of cat food, and buys $1 can tuna for herself... the cats eat better than her)...its a real zoo in there.
I have a dog, and my gf loves my dog. In fact, she even takes my dog for long walks, brings it to her place cause she likes his company, plays tricks, the dog gets along with the cats. My dog is very well trained, it does not eat furniture, will not go into my bedroom or jump into my bed unless I tell him to...he doesn't poop or pee all over the place...etc... I can leave my home in peace, and know when I get back, my shoes, furniture, artwork, paintings, crystal collection are all safe and same as when i left.
I am scared that with her cats moving to my place,.... its going to be a total disaster...and well... its going to be a problem in my relationship. My gf already senses this... and well... she doesn't want to move in with me anymore because she knows I have an issue with her cats.
so how do i get over this? How can I start to like these cats? How can I deal with this? Has anyone else ever been in such a situation?