Hey Cat lovers,
I am feeling hopeless--and could really use help.
I adopted Soleil when she was 12 weeks old.
She was the runt of her litter and they were found, motherless and had to be bottle fed. She spent time with her litter mates until I adopted her, but maybe had not socialized enough.
Within a few months, she began attacking me, with no warning signals. I would play with her for an hour, make sure her environment was stimulating--but, to this day, she has dilated pupils and looks like she is scared and ready to attack at any moment, for reasons unknown.
My vet encouraged me to adopt another cat, so she could have a playmate.
Soleil was 1 1/2 when I adopted Remy. Remy comes from the exact opposite background. She is confident, playful, warm, and was fearless--until recently.
After the initial week of being separate and Soleil hissing at the new kitty-- they actually grew to like each other. They would sleep near each other, had no problems with food. Their play has always seemed too rough, (to me), but they never hurt each other.
Then, about a month ago, I accidentally stepped on Remy's tail and she screeched and went running.
Soleil, always quick to come to Remy's meow--was right there, and they ended up fighting so viciously.
I was hysterical. (Which I know doesn't help)
Now, every time they hear a noise or the other cat even jumps from a perch to the floor--they end up fighting, violently.
It is so awful. I feel like they are terrified of each other and nothing I have tried is helping.
I live in a tiny 1 bedroom apt, so its difficult to separate them. When I do--they just meow and scratch at the door, non-stop.
I have separate bowls and litters. I have built a playscape around most of the upper walls perimeter. There is a 20 foot tree to climb and several perches.
I plugged in the Feliway, pheromone....
I try to play with them separately and give them treats when they are near each other and calm.
I also hired a Cat Behaviorist--that just gave me the same tips I researched online.
I know it takes patience--but this is so hard on them and I have lost so much sleep--
trying to get out ahead of the triggers that cause these fights.
It doesn't seem like they will ever have a peaceful relationship.
Please, if anyone has any advice--it would be so appreciated.
I am so exhausted.
Thanks, in advance.
I am feeling hopeless--and could really use help.
I adopted Soleil when she was 12 weeks old.
She was the runt of her litter and they were found, motherless and had to be bottle fed. She spent time with her litter mates until I adopted her, but maybe had not socialized enough.
Within a few months, she began attacking me, with no warning signals. I would play with her for an hour, make sure her environment was stimulating--but, to this day, she has dilated pupils and looks like she is scared and ready to attack at any moment, for reasons unknown.
My vet encouraged me to adopt another cat, so she could have a playmate.
Soleil was 1 1/2 when I adopted Remy. Remy comes from the exact opposite background. She is confident, playful, warm, and was fearless--until recently.
After the initial week of being separate and Soleil hissing at the new kitty-- they actually grew to like each other. They would sleep near each other, had no problems with food. Their play has always seemed too rough, (to me), but they never hurt each other.
Then, about a month ago, I accidentally stepped on Remy's tail and she screeched and went running.
Soleil, always quick to come to Remy's meow--was right there, and they ended up fighting so viciously.
I was hysterical. (Which I know doesn't help)
Now, every time they hear a noise or the other cat even jumps from a perch to the floor--they end up fighting, violently.
It is so awful. I feel like they are terrified of each other and nothing I have tried is helping.
I live in a tiny 1 bedroom apt, so its difficult to separate them. When I do--they just meow and scratch at the door, non-stop.
I have separate bowls and litters. I have built a playscape around most of the upper walls perimeter. There is a 20 foot tree to climb and several perches.
I plugged in the Feliway, pheromone....
I try to play with them separately and give them treats when they are near each other and calm.
I also hired a Cat Behaviorist--that just gave me the same tips I researched online.
I know it takes patience--but this is so hard on them and I have lost so much sleep--
trying to get out ahead of the triggers that cause these fights.
It doesn't seem like they will ever have a peaceful relationship.
Please, if anyone has any advice--it would be so appreciated.
I am so exhausted.
Thanks, in advance.