I agree completely with you. I'm not a big fan of "get rid of the cat or get rid of the boy/girlfriend" talk. There is often more than one solution to a problem and if both parties are willing to put in the effort, then it doesn't have to be a "do or die" situation. It's called tolerance and understanding.Originally Posted by Rianna
You shouldn't pick your cat over your girlfriend if you really love her.
... just like you shouldn't pick your girlfriend over your cat.
It might not be the easiest transition, but it's possible. My cat Jazz HATED all my boyfriends. If I were to sit down next to my boyfriend, Jazz would sit in the middle and glare at him. If he slept over, Jazz (who always slept on my pillow) would walk on him and hit him with his tail as he passed. They eventually leaned to deal with each other. When I had to put Jazz down 6 months ago, my boyfriend cried pretty hard.
Solution? Accept it might not ever be 100% perfect. Your girlfriend may never be crazy about your cat... and your cat may never be crazy about your girlfriend.... but as long as they both have you to love them, then they'll be okay.