I have two cats: a boy and a girl. The boy is larger and more dominant, the girl is smaller and more submissive/very shy. They're just over 2 years old.
The boy is great - 0 concerns with him. The girl, however, I'm struggling with. She's always been skittish, but there was a situation a couple weeks ago that I think screwed me over. She bit me and I swatted her on the nose (not hard, just as a "hey, stop that!" type thing - in retrospect, I know that was a bad decision but it was a snap reaction, so please don't judge me, I already feel absolutely horrible for it) and she bolted away. Now, she hides from me constantly, despite me leaving treats for her, trying to be as un-frightening as possible, speaking in a soft voice... but it's not getting any better.
The weird thing is, she seems to love my boyfriend. She always curls up to him and enjoys coming around him, even though he tends to be pretty loud (and loud noises generally scare her). I'm getting really frustrated, because I take care of this animal who doesn't want anything to do with me.
I'm unhappy with the situation, and I can't imagine that she's too happy if she's constantly hiding. I rarely see this cat anymore. So, my question is, would I be a horrible person if I found her a new home? I just don't think this is the best situation for either of us.
The boy is great - 0 concerns with him. The girl, however, I'm struggling with. She's always been skittish, but there was a situation a couple weeks ago that I think screwed me over. She bit me and I swatted her on the nose (not hard, just as a "hey, stop that!" type thing - in retrospect, I know that was a bad decision but it was a snap reaction, so please don't judge me, I already feel absolutely horrible for it) and she bolted away. Now, she hides from me constantly, despite me leaving treats for her, trying to be as un-frightening as possible, speaking in a soft voice... but it's not getting any better.
The weird thing is, she seems to love my boyfriend. She always curls up to him and enjoys coming around him, even though he tends to be pretty loud (and loud noises generally scare her). I'm getting really frustrated, because I take care of this animal who doesn't want anything to do with me.
I'm unhappy with the situation, and I can't imagine that she's too happy if she's constantly hiding. I rarely see this cat anymore. So, my question is, would I be a horrible person if I found her a new home? I just don't think this is the best situation for either of us.