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Hi,
My cat Mina is 3 years old siamese and we have her from when she was 4 months old. She was always more shy than her sister (Lili), but we thought that with the time it would get better.
But it's getting worse. At the beginning she used to play a lot but as she got older she started to reject her sister and playing very rarely. Very soon after her arrival, she was getting more and more afraid of my husband and I know she doesn't have any reason. Her sister loved (she died last week) my husband, so it cannot be him.
She is sticked to me and she is afraid of my husband. Everytime he picks her up (if he succeed...), she would "freeze", it's impossible to move her paws ot tail without broking it. He calls her Miki-concrete... She only comes to him when he is watching TV and when she is in the mood. But she is not agressive.
With me I can pick her up anytime, i can feel how she is relaxed. When my husband approach, she freezes.
Lately it seems that she has become afraid of me as well, it's not as easy as it was to "catch" her... She is very demanding cat though, when she wants to sleep with me under my duvet, she would scratch the duvet until i wouldn't let her go in. Or during the night, she would start to purr like a motor and she wakes me up (i am very hard sleeper!). Or when she wants to play, she brings me the thing for playing (a kind of fur string on a stick), she put it on my foot, pats me twice (she does it like a human, it freaks me out everytime!) and miaow.
We tried Feliway as well, even for several months, but it doesn't help.
She also pulls out her fur, but she doesn't eat it, she spits it out. She does this quite often, because on her back there is a visible hole of no-fur.
I went with her to the vet, but they didn't find any medical reason to it, also adviced Feliway. I don't want to feed her with any chemicals making her sleepy cat.
Is it her who decided to be so stubborn, to like only me and only under certain conditions, or is there anything that could be changed.
My husband is pretty disappointed with her behaviour and now when we lost Lili (who was HIS "baby"), he is pretty sad. He said that maybe now, when Lili is gone, Mina would eventually change....
I would like to help to improve their relationship, so any advice is greatly appreciated.
My cat Mina is 3 years old siamese and we have her from when she was 4 months old. She was always more shy than her sister (Lili), but we thought that with the time it would get better.
But it's getting worse. At the beginning she used to play a lot but as she got older she started to reject her sister and playing very rarely. Very soon after her arrival, she was getting more and more afraid of my husband and I know she doesn't have any reason. Her sister loved (she died last week) my husband, so it cannot be him.
She is sticked to me and she is afraid of my husband. Everytime he picks her up (if he succeed...), she would "freeze", it's impossible to move her paws ot tail without broking it. He calls her Miki-concrete... She only comes to him when he is watching TV and when she is in the mood. But she is not agressive.
With me I can pick her up anytime, i can feel how she is relaxed. When my husband approach, she freezes.
Lately it seems that she has become afraid of me as well, it's not as easy as it was to "catch" her... She is very demanding cat though, when she wants to sleep with me under my duvet, she would scratch the duvet until i wouldn't let her go in. Or during the night, she would start to purr like a motor and she wakes me up (i am very hard sleeper!). Or when she wants to play, she brings me the thing for playing (a kind of fur string on a stick), she put it on my foot, pats me twice (she does it like a human, it freaks me out everytime!) and miaow.
We tried Feliway as well, even for several months, but it doesn't help.
She also pulls out her fur, but she doesn't eat it, she spits it out. She does this quite often, because on her back there is a visible hole of no-fur.
I went with her to the vet, but they didn't find any medical reason to it, also adviced Feliway. I don't want to feed her with any chemicals making her sleepy cat.
Is it her who decided to be so stubborn, to like only me and only under certain conditions, or is there anything that could be changed.
My husband is pretty disappointed with her behaviour and now when we lost Lili (who was HIS "baby"), he is pretty sad. He said that maybe now, when Lili is gone, Mina would eventually change....
I would like to help to improve their relationship, so any advice is greatly appreciated.