My Cat Is Mad At Me

[jen]

Well, she is a very anxious cat about travelling and going to the vet so he doesn't want to put her through that unless it's absolutely necessary.

This is really not the right attitude to have as a cat owner. Keep the cat carrier out and open. Put a comfy blanket in there, food, treats, toys, make it a happy place so it isn't so scary when she goes to the vet. This is a very easy thing to do to help her. Pick up some Feliway spray to spray in there too.

Your boyfriend had 11 cats thats fine but if he never took them to the vet until he SAW something wrong those cats were sick a long time and possibly suffering even.

 

[LTS3]

Few cats enjoy visiting the vet. You just have to be the Big Boss and put the cat into the carrier and take her to the vet. The constant meowing is annoying but you just have to up with it on the way to the vet. Most cats quiet down for the ride home. You can try wiping down the inside of the carrier with Feliway to help keep the cat calm.

Or look into a mobile vet who does house calls. You'll have to put your cat into a room maybe 15 minutes or so before the appointment so you and the vet aren't wasting time trying to find the cat hidden somewhere in the house.

3) I equate cat treats to large cookies (if you look at how much a cat eats all day versus how much you eat all day, I think the comparison is fair.)

Cat treats are not meals. They are cookies, potato chips, pretzles, etc not a healthy square meal. The package feeding instructions

It does say main meal but I take that as one meal of the day, not the only source of food the cat gets every single day, week after week. The Whiskas dry food referenced is a pretty poor quality food no better than the treats themselves. And a 1/4 cup of dry food isn't even enough food daily for a cat.

Take feeding instructions with a grain of salt. They are often inaccurate and even harmful. If a package of cookies says that the entire package can replace a meal and has vitamins and minerals, would you let a child eat the whole package for dinner? Most likely not.

 

[danteshuman]

My boys get their yearly checkup and my punk goes when his lips balloons out. My punk Dante started hyperventilating in his full blown panic about being in a crate and going to the vet. I unzipped the top of his soft carrier and let him stick his head out and petted him... while gently keeping him in his crate. But we still went to the vet! Again I'm going to equate this to little kids. A small child might throw a fit all the way to the dr.... you still take them to get vaccinated. Even adults need a yearly physical (and ladies need a yearly gynecological visits. Sometimes being a pet guardian or parent means being the bad guy for a little while to keep your pets/kids healthy and thriving. Because I'm old I remember a time when I was a kid and my irresponsible dad thought all did for a pet was feed them. I think that was a more popular thought in the 1980's.

* One of their food bowls is in front of the crate. In a few months I will slowly get them to go in it, using treats. Eventually I will get them to play in it.

 

[Ladewyn]

Cats don't stop eating out of anger. If a cat stops eating, they need to go to the vet. There is not any other option. Not eating for 72 hours indicates a lot of potentially deadly issues, including blockages, among other things. There's a chance it's nothing, but if it's something and you keep waiting, you could wind up waiting until it's too late. $80 dollars to find out nothing is wrong is better than 1000 dollars for a surgery due to something that progressed too far along.

If you are worried about finances, you can get loans specifically for vet care (not from the vet, but from loan companies). You can also see if there is a low-income charity vet in your area (they give discounts to anyone who is low income; a lot of shelter vets have programs like this). The last option is to give her to a shelter. It's not ideal but it's better than not getting care.

 

[maggiedemi]

I would measure the exact amount of food she is eating per day. I do this every day, so I can tell when my cats are sick. Also look at what is going on in the litterbox. I would also look at getting her de-wormed if you haven't. Worms & Fleas cause my cats to lose their appetite.

 

[Hellenww]

I'm not sure how much she's eaten

If she has begun to eat again and is getting over the stress of the invasion, I understand why you hesitate putting her through more stress. With one cat it will be easier to keep track of her eating.

Make up a chart like this so you have a sense if she is eating enough now. Take it with you to the vet.

 

[KyaraRose]

This is really not the right attitude to have as a cat owner. Keep the cat carrier out and open. Put a comfy blanket in there, food, treats, toys, make it a happy place so it isn't so scary when she goes to the vet. This is a very easy thing to do to help her. Pick up some Feliway spray to spray in there too.

Done all that. Feliway doesn't do anything for her and that trick doesn't work either.

 

[jen]

Done all that. Feliway doesn't do anything for her and that trick doesn't work either.

She is only 9 months, it takes time. Now is when you can alter these unwanted behaviors. It certainly won't do any harm leaving it out. Put a blanket over it so it seems like a good hiding spot even.

 

[Ladewyn]

Another thing if she's super stressed by the vet is you can sedate her. My cat is terrified of the vet, goes entirely fractious even toward me at the clinic. He'd be all lovey dovey once home but they couldn't do anything with him.

So I saw a cat specialist who prescribed gabapentin. For the next visit he was much less aggressive, still displeased but not so much so that a bowl of temptations couldn't distract him. A vet that works with low stress handling (what most cat specialists are moving toward) also helps significantly.

 

[ramscici]

Hi there,

I'm seconding what pretty much everyone else in this thread has said.

1) Cats don't have spiteful emotions like humans do, and they don't feel spite or vengeful toward people because they took them a certain place or for something similar. They don't have reason or logic like that. They might feel afraid or have a bad association, but all they know is that they are stressed. It helps a lot not to project human emotions onto a cat; you'll only misunderstand them. Cats can also sense when you're upset. They are emotional sponges. So if you're upset because you think your cat is mad at you, she'll sense that negative energy and it'll be a continuous cycle. I can guarantee you your cat is not mad or spiteful toward you. If she's being aggressive when she never was before, she is just fearful or stressed. They are very, very different creatures than we are.

2) Temptations treats can definitely not be substituted for a meal. Everyone else pretty much already said why.

3) If your cat is not eating, she needs to see a vet. As soon as possible. Cats don't stop eating because they're mad. They stop because they are not feeling well or there is something wrong. This is always an emergency and should be treated as such.

Your boyfriend doesn't seem to have the right attitude about dealing with your cat's health. Please be a vigilant guardian for her. She needs it.

 

[jen]

2) Temptations treats can definitely not be substituted for a meal. Everyone else pretty much already said why.

I have heard people say that they use Temptations as food. But I think the confusion lays in the fact that their products say "100% complete and balanced" and "provide all the right nutrients for your cat in the amounts he needs" but their website very clearly says that it should never be used as a meal replacement and should only suppliment their regular cat food. Very misleading to the unknowing cat owner.

 

[KyaraRose]

Well, she ate a whole can of food today. I think she may be on the mend. Still want to have her looked at, but I have a feeling she may be depressed. She had most of the symptoms, and I have depression and we've been under a lot of stress lately. I read to keep litter box spotless and to play with her daily. After 3 days of playing with her, she's forgiven me, she's eating, and she's sleeping near us again...

And cats may not get mad the way humans do, but she was feeling something like it, because she was only upset with me, but not my boyfriend. She was relaxed and cuddling him, but the second I touched her, she got "stressed." It's the only explanation.

 

[lilmopeep]

I would choose my cats over a man every time. Men come & go, cats stay.

AMEN!!!