it has been one year since we adopted two young cats from a shelter. Neither one of them want anything to do with being picked up or held. The female is Bianca and she mostly keeps to herself except when it is time to eat then she becomes very loveable and vocal. she is really playful and kinda of takes care of our male cat, Alvin.
Alvin, is a solid black long hair cat with a big bushy tail. He is slender with big paws. Alvin has us confused. Like Bianca he wants no parts of being held. However, unlike the other cat Alvin is extremely frightened by us. Anytime we walk near him he runs away. if we try to call him over he just looks at us and walks away. He kinda of looks like he wants to come over but won't. After about 6 months we can go to him if he laying on the couch and he will let us pet him a little bit then walks away.
However, this all changes when we are in bed. Alvin jumps up and will go to each of us. He head buts us, nudges us, licks my feet, rolls over and wants his belly rubbed, and rubs against us. the whole time he is purring away and looking at us with those "I just love you eyes". However, as soon are out of bed he is scared again.
Over the past year I have only heard Alvin meow once. that was when he was hiding in the towel closet and he got locked in the bathroom as I was taking a shower. He was crying to go out.
When comes to other cats Alvin is very sociable. He enjoys playing chase with Bianca and having her groom him. Our neighbor also has a male cat named Midnight that always wants to come in the house. When Midnight comes for visit Bianca just ignores him like she is doing with us. however, Alvin is all over Midnight sniffing him, trying to get midnight to play chase, trying lay with him. Midnight is a much older cat and tolerates it for a while. he will take a swat at Alvin when gets annoyed while keeping his claws in but they do not fight.
How do we get Alvin to understand that we are the same people in the bed?
Alvin, is a solid black long hair cat with a big bushy tail. He is slender with big paws. Alvin has us confused. Like Bianca he wants no parts of being held. However, unlike the other cat Alvin is extremely frightened by us. Anytime we walk near him he runs away. if we try to call him over he just looks at us and walks away. He kinda of looks like he wants to come over but won't. After about 6 months we can go to him if he laying on the couch and he will let us pet him a little bit then walks away.
However, this all changes when we are in bed. Alvin jumps up and will go to each of us. He head buts us, nudges us, licks my feet, rolls over and wants his belly rubbed, and rubs against us. the whole time he is purring away and looking at us with those "I just love you eyes". However, as soon are out of bed he is scared again.
Over the past year I have only heard Alvin meow once. that was when he was hiding in the towel closet and he got locked in the bathroom as I was taking a shower. He was crying to go out.
When comes to other cats Alvin is very sociable. He enjoys playing chase with Bianca and having her groom him. Our neighbor also has a male cat named Midnight that always wants to come in the house. When Midnight comes for visit Bianca just ignores him like she is doing with us. however, Alvin is all over Midnight sniffing him, trying to get midnight to play chase, trying lay with him. Midnight is a much older cat and tolerates it for a while. he will take a swat at Alvin when gets annoyed while keeping his claws in but they do not fight.
How do we get Alvin to understand that we are the same people in the bed?