Hey there,
well, I've got a problem with our cat - she really, really doesn't seem to like me very much at all.
We've had her for about half a year; she was a stray and my mum brought her, and she's living with me and my girlfriend. She loves my mum, likes my girlfriend, and appears to hate me with a passion.
That wasn't the case from the beginning, though; she was on heat for probably the first time when we got her (she's neutered now), and was very amiable and loving towards everyone to the point that she insistently cuddled up, wanting to be stroked, etc. This then changed gradually, and she grew more distant to most people, especially me, though. She warmed up to most of them again, but kept her disdain towards me, running away from me, hissing, etc.
I really haven't made more mistakes or stepped wrongly with her than anyone else (my mum brought her to the vet multiple times, which caused her to go full-on bonkers in the car yet she still loves her); mistakes I've made were once trying to introduce her to a dog (which wasn't a good idea, for the dog, that is [there was no chasing involved, she just scratched the dog, that's it]) and trying to briefly train her to accept my company as you would with a dog, because I just had it by that point with her running away from me. Yeah, that didn't work.
Her general dislike is expressed first of all by running away from me whenever I try to approach her, unless she's dozing or wants food, then she's accepting of my company and stroking her; she ends interaction by hissing at me (after running away) and/or scratching me. I know the signs when a cat is fine done with a stroking, but she tends to not really show them; also, I'm the only one to get scratched on a regular basis - and that while having the least interaction with her.
The most annoying bit is that she randomly pees on my clothes, regardless of whether they're fresh out of the washing machine or old ones; she pees on mine exclusively (safe for a few rare exceptions). Sometimes I know that I've pissed her off, generally, however, there wasn't even an event that could've sparked it because either I wasn't even there or all her needs were met and I did't interact with her at all.
The strange thing is that she's more accepting of me when I'm the only one in the house for a longer period of time. Then, she's more likely to approach me and "suffer my touch", yet as soon as either my girlfriend, my mum, or my sister are around, she shuns me and hisses at me whenever I'm close.
I don't really think ill of her, she's an animal after all, it's just annoying to keep having cat pee on my clothes and living with a creature in your house with whom I've got next to no interaction, running dangerously close to forgetting about her concerning change of litter or food. It did have the nice side-effect of having less clothes lying on the floor, though.
If ANYONE happens to have any insight into the matter, please do share it because I'm at the end of my wits and really would like to at least have some interaction with her or at least her not hissing at me for, well, no bloody reason at all.
Thanks a lot in advance to any who may answer
well, I've got a problem with our cat - she really, really doesn't seem to like me very much at all.
We've had her for about half a year; she was a stray and my mum brought her, and she's living with me and my girlfriend. She loves my mum, likes my girlfriend, and appears to hate me with a passion.
That wasn't the case from the beginning, though; she was on heat for probably the first time when we got her (she's neutered now), and was very amiable and loving towards everyone to the point that she insistently cuddled up, wanting to be stroked, etc. This then changed gradually, and she grew more distant to most people, especially me, though. She warmed up to most of them again, but kept her disdain towards me, running away from me, hissing, etc.
I really haven't made more mistakes or stepped wrongly with her than anyone else (my mum brought her to the vet multiple times, which caused her to go full-on bonkers in the car yet she still loves her); mistakes I've made were once trying to introduce her to a dog (which wasn't a good idea, for the dog, that is [there was no chasing involved, she just scratched the dog, that's it]) and trying to briefly train her to accept my company as you would with a dog, because I just had it by that point with her running away from me. Yeah, that didn't work.
Her general dislike is expressed first of all by running away from me whenever I try to approach her, unless she's dozing or wants food, then she's accepting of my company and stroking her; she ends interaction by hissing at me (after running away) and/or scratching me. I know the signs when a cat is fine done with a stroking, but she tends to not really show them; also, I'm the only one to get scratched on a regular basis - and that while having the least interaction with her.
The most annoying bit is that she randomly pees on my clothes, regardless of whether they're fresh out of the washing machine or old ones; she pees on mine exclusively (safe for a few rare exceptions). Sometimes I know that I've pissed her off, generally, however, there wasn't even an event that could've sparked it because either I wasn't even there or all her needs were met and I did't interact with her at all.
The strange thing is that she's more accepting of me when I'm the only one in the house for a longer period of time. Then, she's more likely to approach me and "suffer my touch", yet as soon as either my girlfriend, my mum, or my sister are around, she shuns me and hisses at me whenever I'm close.
I don't really think ill of her, she's an animal after all, it's just annoying to keep having cat pee on my clothes and living with a creature in your house with whom I've got next to no interaction, running dangerously close to forgetting about her concerning change of litter or food. It did have the nice side-effect of having less clothes lying on the floor, though.
If ANYONE happens to have any insight into the matter, please do share it because I'm at the end of my wits and really would like to at least have some interaction with her or at least her not hissing at me for, well, no bloody reason at all.
Thanks a lot in advance to any who may answer