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Dear all the cat parents ,
I have read many threads without becoming a member before as this site would come up if I googled anything. I finally decided to join to seek help about my babies.
Loki is a 21 months old Scottish fold. I got him when he was 3 months old. He was never a lap cat to begin with, and he barely showed any affection. He is an indoor cat and stays in my bedroom (Pretty large size with lots of windows, including a big bathroom with a window and a large closet) while I am at work 8 hours a day. His routine has always been this way since I do not let him roam around the house thinking it is not safe. As I mentioned, he was never an affectionate cat, but we played a lot until after a year or so. But he he has always followed me around, found himself a spot near me and hang out or sleep (I was content with that much affection, as I respected his space). I have a big family, and my nieces love him, but he does not care for them when they come over to visit. I also think he stopped trusting me because I let my nieces near him. Long story short, he almost stopped playing, I know he is healthy because he gets his regular check up, he eats and sleeps, purrs when I pet him (Only when he lets me), sleeps on his stomach on his back (Adorable!!!) and begs me for treats when I am in the kitchen. You can tell he is a happy baby but just aloof.
To get him to play, I got Lily, a four months old Scottish Fold. She is the sweetest little thing. He hated her for a few days (as expected), but they both got along within a week. Ever since, they play together everyday for about 10 minutes. (Maybe more while I am at work). Lily is not a lap cat either, but very affectionate. Super excited to see me, follows me around literally everywhere and cries when she cant find me. I keep their litter box clean, give them both wet and dry food, fresh water and leave them with many many toys. Lily plays with anything you throw her way, but Loki- nope! I know he needs activities, and that bonding with his mom, and I religiously play with them everyday whether he plays or not. He was always super picky about toys (Almost played with nothing) , but now he even gets bored chasing the laser after a few minutes (which was his only interest) lately. He has shown interest to go outside my room when I am not home, and I have even let him out the room while I am gone just to keep him happy. I do not have any human children, and these two are my babies. I try to provide them with the best of everything, but what am I doing wrong? Why would he not play with me? Why doesn't he like any toys? What can I do to keep him more active? How can I bond with him?
I am sorry for the long post, but I tried to include every little details. I have read almost all internet threads and watched all the Jackson Galaxy videos. What can I do? I have tried buying all the toys people suggested for aloof cats on different forums, but nothing gets him excited. I should also mention, both of my babies do not care for catnip or Valerian root. I want a long and healthy life them, and exercise is vital. I feel sad and hopeless sometimes, would someone please help this desperate mother?
I have read many threads without becoming a member before as this site would come up if I googled anything. I finally decided to join to seek help about my babies.
Loki is a 21 months old Scottish fold. I got him when he was 3 months old. He was never a lap cat to begin with, and he barely showed any affection. He is an indoor cat and stays in my bedroom (Pretty large size with lots of windows, including a big bathroom with a window and a large closet) while I am at work 8 hours a day. His routine has always been this way since I do not let him roam around the house thinking it is not safe. As I mentioned, he was never an affectionate cat, but we played a lot until after a year or so. But he he has always followed me around, found himself a spot near me and hang out or sleep (I was content with that much affection, as I respected his space). I have a big family, and my nieces love him, but he does not care for them when they come over to visit. I also think he stopped trusting me because I let my nieces near him. Long story short, he almost stopped playing, I know he is healthy because he gets his regular check up, he eats and sleeps, purrs when I pet him (Only when he lets me), sleeps on his stomach on his back (Adorable!!!) and begs me for treats when I am in the kitchen. You can tell he is a happy baby but just aloof.
To get him to play, I got Lily, a four months old Scottish Fold. She is the sweetest little thing. He hated her for a few days (as expected), but they both got along within a week. Ever since, they play together everyday for about 10 minutes. (Maybe more while I am at work). Lily is not a lap cat either, but very affectionate. Super excited to see me, follows me around literally everywhere and cries when she cant find me. I keep their litter box clean, give them both wet and dry food, fresh water and leave them with many many toys. Lily plays with anything you throw her way, but Loki- nope! I know he needs activities, and that bonding with his mom, and I religiously play with them everyday whether he plays or not. He was always super picky about toys (Almost played with nothing) , but now he even gets bored chasing the laser after a few minutes (which was his only interest) lately. He has shown interest to go outside my room when I am not home, and I have even let him out the room while I am gone just to keep him happy. I do not have any human children, and these two are my babies. I try to provide them with the best of everything, but what am I doing wrong? Why would he not play with me? Why doesn't he like any toys? What can I do to keep him more active? How can I bond with him?
I am sorry for the long post, but I tried to include every little details. I have read almost all internet threads and watched all the Jackson Galaxy videos. What can I do? I have tried buying all the toys people suggested for aloof cats on different forums, but nothing gets him excited. I should also mention, both of my babies do not care for catnip or Valerian root. I want a long and healthy life them, and exercise is vital. I feel sad and hopeless sometimes, would someone please help this desperate mother?