my cat doen't like my new hairstyle

[artyjill]

Daisy was just getting a lot better and trusting me and was playing with me but every thing went backwards since l had my hair done curly. At first l couldn't understand why she was running away from me and turning her heard and looking t me with eyes wide open, she was doing this a lot.and being a lot more nervous.

My hair was always straight but was having problems with my arms doing it so thought if it was curly l could just run my hands threw it after l had it washed. Am sure she thinks the real me has gone. Would happen when l was trying to get her calmer to get her to the vets next week.

So ladies when your changing your hair style keep a hat on for a while lol

Jill

 

[mservant]

Aww, what a shame!   I hope she adjusts soon - and that you like your new hair do despite Daisy's initial reaction.

It could be the smell of a hair treatment as well as the effect it has on the outline your cat sees of you, but as cat sight is not as accute as human sight, esp in daylight, sudden changes in our outline / profile can throw them.   It can throw young chilren too - someone I know tied back their long, curly hair when her second daughter was a few weeks old and the little mite was terrified to start with!

I wonder if it would help if you tied a scarf or something over your hair to alter your head profile more to like what it was before?   Also making sure you talk as you approach her and use familiar scented products and clothes so all other messages you send her are familiar.

 

[artyjill]

Thanks for he reply, l never even thought about Daisy having a reaction but as l have been working with her for 12weeks on her   with her not being socialized l should have.

When my son was a year old l went Blonde and he screamed the house down. I think l will start from the beginning again when she has been nuetered on Wednesday.

She won't eat any treats either. The only thing that's making her Happy is the two feather sticks i stuck together and stroke her with., Her best thing is the Cat meow but the feather sticks are nearly  over taking it.

  Jilly

 

[mservant]

It is good that she is enjoying the contact! Fixing two wands together to get the length needed was a good idea.

Getting back to her seeing you as a familiar and not TOO scary person will no doubt be hard with her spay surgery due but hopefully the experience at the vet will be compensated for by the reducing levels of hormones rushing around her body.  

LoL with the blond hair! :-D

 

[artyjill]

Well she has gone, a lady and he husband from cats protection  came to help. I had got Daisy into the bathroom with food and litter and Carrier and the husband was first to try and for a while it was so quite and she let him stroke her but then war broke out and l heard a noise like a plastic sheet was going round and round then she bit his thumb ended up with his whole thumb plastered up. But then he came out with her in the carrier and she looked terrified but its the first time with this vet as she had her injections done at the breeder's vet.

Have told the couple to remind them how she is, think they will have to give her something before they take her out of her cage to have the op.

    Jilly

 

[artyjill]

I was reading the book about what cats are thinking about and l was going to order it but l lost the book to click on. Amazon did.it get it either. Have you got a link to it,

Jilly

 

[mservant]

What a stressful day for everyone.  I hope the man who helped get Daisy in to the carrier is OK.  Also that Daisy is alright at the vet of course.  How long is she expected to be with the vet for?

Is the book you are asking about 'What Is My Cat Thinking?'   This is the link on Amazon UK which would at least give you the title and author.  I have this book and although some parts are quite basic it is really useful, and very easy to read and understand.

 

[artyjill]

Thanks for the link, keep thinking Daisy is still here and catch myself talking to her.I don't think it was a big bite as he wife did as she bandaged all the thumb up yet he was saying l only needed a plaster.

Been reading about a diffuser that has Valerian in it and had loads of good  feedback about it. Have used feilway spray and diffuser but never made an improved in her and the tablets from vet didn't but he said they were mild So was thinking about this diffuser and Valerian is a natural herb but will read a bit more about it,

Going to bed as all this cat worry  make me tired lol

Jilly

 

[mservant]

Not sure how the valerian would work - it acts very differently on cats to how it does with humans.  Most importantly it is a stimulant for cats!   It might increase a cat's confidence rather than relax it, I'm really not sure.  I know that with Mouse he gets very hyper and very bitey so ends up in 'time out'... 

 

Have a good night.  

 

[artyjill]

Well its a odd morning as vets rang me to ask if l want it done in the flank or mid line. It was early when they rang me  and asked me if the night nurse had rung me  which she hadn't. I am not great in the morning due to taking night medication so after the second time of exhaling l just said how its always done now l am thinking maybe it would have been better done mid line as short hairs don't have thick fur. Wish they had asked me yesterday. Its to late now. Also l thought of them trimming  her nails as she won't let me. My Persian l had for 16 years had to  have sedation for it andte same for mats, she let me groom her everyday to keep her eyes from staining and a good brush but nails were a no go. I phoned them and the nurse was going to ask them.t So am hoping it gets done as she gets them  caught up in rugs, she easily gets out of it thank goodness but would be better done now.. I should have thought about it before. A sign of getting older.

 

[artyjill]

Daisy came home at four and left her in the carrier for half an hour and when she came out she was well of anesthetic, She was going mad to get into the bathroom where her stuff had been for a few days. I was rattling her dishes and she Finlay came but its upset me as its just like the day l bought her. She was crawling across the floor and l couldn't walk near her, its just a repeat of four months ago. She has one in her hiding place that she hasn't used for a while, normally likes to sit in the sun coming through on the rug, she hates all kinds of beds . Were she will be is were l can't go as she will just bolt again. I have a wooden screen in the corner of bedroom were there is a fabric wardrobe with my paintings are and my granddaughter found her and she said she is squashed in a shelf,but going near her will start more problems that upset me  but have got her to move my sofa so there is a space behind it which would be better. I thought that tomorrow l could maybe direct her there.She was sleeping on the rug right in front of me. Th only bit of Daisy was when l put the feather rods next to the carrier and she turned round with her hood thing on and she was pawing it. That will be the thing that may bring her back to were she was.

Have just ordered the book called, Thinking like a Cat l bet its like all others l have got but l keep thinking one might have a miracle in it.

It just makes you feel awful to see her looking at me scarred to death as tough l have done something awful to her. Daisy must be number 6 l have had done in my life and she is number 1 how she is.

Don't even feel like eating, the vet gave my carer a pkt of food that was bland for her. I explained to another nurse on the phone how difficult it is to get in in carrier and its the only times she bits or scratches. She said do i know of anyone medical which don't but l said that l was a nurse would that do and she said yes so that was one thing got right.

Going now to see if l can eat,

Jill  xx

 

[mservant]

How upsetting all that must be.  I am glad you have her back home with you though.

It is hopefully Daisy feeling stressed after her trip and surgery rather than going back to stage one with you.  If you give her time and space there is a good chance she will remember you are the human she has started to trust and has been feeling safer with and you will see her start to venture out again soon.  Continue to be patient with her and I am sure she will feel reassured that you are still a person to trust.  Try to eat and relax your self as that will help Daisy to relax too.

 

[Columbine]

How upsetting all that must be.  I am glad you have her back home with you though.

It is hopefully Daisy feeling stressed after her trip and surgery rather than going back to stage one with you.  If you give her time and space there is a good chance she will remember you are the human she has started to trust and has been feeling safer with and you will see her start to venture out again soon.  Continue to be patient with her and I am sure she will feel reassured that you are still a person to trust.  Try to eat and relax your self as that will help Daisy to relax too.

Give her time, and try to act as normally as possible. Even if she has regressed a bit, she'll make progress back to where she was far quicker than she did before. Don't lose hope. She will trust you again

 

[artyjill]

Thanks for the reply, she is still in her hiding space. Normally when l go to be she comes back to the room which l hope she still will do as its safer on the rug. I feel a lot calmer its just when she looks at me with scared eyesl was so pleased when she stopped doing it.

Have just been reading about unsocialised cats and they say the best way of getting a cat used to people and there voices and also to stop bolting is to get a cage and have her and litter tray in it in the room that people come into.

I am not to keen on this way but if it would be better for Daisy l would try it, what do you think about it. I wouldn't be able to play with her in it.

 Jilly

 

[mservant]

I don't know if you have tried this before, but one thing I have done and read other people have had success with too is sitting in the same room and reading aloud, something not too intense - more relaxing.  It takes the focus off the cat but is you sharing your space and talking.  As the speech is not directed at the cat it is less threatening but gets them used to your voice and often interested in what you are doing.  Sitting listening to classical music in the room they are in also seems to help with bonding and relaxing cats.