Originally Posted by churchi4cubs
Your fiancee sounds like a real piece of work. Your cat "startles" her? Give me a break. Can't live with the hair/smell? Whatever. Buy a vacuum and keep the litter box clean. If she was "allergic" to cats, it wouldn't take getting hair in her eyes.
Like other people have said, there seems to be some real control issues from what you have told us. If she can't handle a cat that you had before she came along, good luck making decisions in the future.
I'm a guy and will compromise on a variety of issues, but I wouldn't get steamrolled over my cats.
My 2 cents..