Hello. I'm new here. I've been reading everything I can to see what I can do. Over the years if I saw a stray cat or dog I would try my best to help. There are a few strays around here and I put food out to feed them. Now I hope this isn't too long but it probably will be and the reason I mention everything I do is because it kind of goes together. About 2 or 3years ago maybe there was one cat that looked pretty young so me and my mom would feed her and try to take her inside. She wanted no part of it. We put a box outside on our porch and cushioned it so she had some place to stay. It's one of those tupperware storage bins. She would stay in it most of the time. She would come and go. She stayed here all winter too. She would come in for not even minutes but want to leave. Like I said wanted no part of inside. Meanwhile there are other stray cats around. I even took one in before that belonged to a neighbor that didn't care. Why I say he didn't care is because he saw his cat in my yard and the only thing he said was "there he is". "He doesn't want to stay inside". "I have 4 cats and 2 dogs". So his cat would come here almost everyday. He wanted to come in so we let him. The guy moved a while after and not once before he moved or after when i saw him did he ask me about the cat. We have him since. He still wants to go out and we let him. He mostly stays in the yard but sometimes leaves but he always comes back. He doesn't go past a few houses. If we don't let him out he cries but sometimes gets over it.
One day a cat comes in our yard and was eating. He would come once in a while. Me and my mom went around the block and would see him in the guys yard that the cat we took in came from. So I'm guessing it was one of his and maybe the 2 can be related..i strongly think that. He would be the only one to tell me. Anyway he started coming here everyday. He got used to me and became very friendly with me. He started staying here everyday and took over the box we put out there for the other one-the girl. By that time she didn't stay as much. But we put another box outside for her. Turns out she belonged to the people few houses down. We know that because we called the cops thinking they were trying to hurt her but they had papers for her. I don't know but to this day she's still outside-almost everyday she's here she was even here today.
Anyway back to the one that came everyday and took over the box. He becamey buddy very quickly. He even wanted to come in so we let him in. I live with my family cause they aren't very good health wise especially my grandmother. My uncle even wanted him to come in. He would stay for a while then wanted to leave. So we kept doing that until he got used to the house. I already have 1 dog and 1 cat since he was a kitten and is around 10 now. Plus the one i took in a while before that might be related to him and i think that came from the same guy. He never wanted to stay longer than maybe 2 hours. He would come in eat,sleep, play a little then want to leave. I even put cat litter by the back door for him but he never used it. I guess because the guy let him out so much he got used to using the bathroom outside. He only used the litter box upstairs once. I would put him in it but nothing.
So i took care of him for a year inside and outside but the last year he was inside more than before. He would stay on my porch, lay inside the box, on top of the box, on the chair that i put shirts for cushion, or just on the porch or in the grass and sometimes in a little bush we have. He was here every single day, just about all day. He would leave the yard for a while but always come back. 2 years in total, like I said this past year more inside than before. He came inside everyday. I tried to keep him inside but he always wanted to go outside to use the bathroom. If I didn't let him outside he wouldnt go in the litter box he would go on the floor. I don't like telling people that but that's the reason why he wanted to go out. Like i said before he only used the box once. My cat wasn't used to him at first and he would stare at him. The dog and the cat i took in..not a problem at all. He didn't have a problem with any of them. When he comes in, he lays on the chair next to me, or on the floor next to the chair i sit in. He would sleep there or even sleep on all 4 chairs in the kitchen(they're a little cushioned). He would even just lay on the floor curled up. He wasnt sure about upstairs even though he went there a few times he would stay downstairs. We got a new microwave and the Styrofoam that comes around it was on the floor and he layed on it and kind of made it his bed. It was so cute. He's a big cat. So i figured i would leave that on the floor for him in the kitchen under the table. That kinda became his bed. Other than laying on chairs and floor. I tried to keep him in all day but like i said he never wanted to stay in. But he came in everyday for a while basically in and out everyday. Him and the one i took in would even sit and lay on the porch together. One on top of each box. He even layed on an recycling bin that we have an awning folded on..he made that his bed too. The porch became his i guess. Other cats would come and eat-the ones that have been around for the same amount of time plus the girl that belongs to those people(they got used to each other and would eat together outside). They never bothered each other. New strays came and went for a while. Never bothered. There's only one he would have a litle problem with that i would have to watch them so they didnt fight. Everytime I was outside in the back he was with me-always. I cut the grass-he's with me laying there, rolling around in the grass, laying on the porch, I take the garbage out-he follows from back yard to front then back to the back yard. I loved it and thought it was so cute. All day/all night he was in and out. I always let him in when he wanted to come in. Sometimes I would try to get him in but he wouldn't come in. Of course he was in more in the winter than summer. Sometimes he wouldn'tcome in. Maybe cause he was so used to being outside. Other times he ran inside as soo. As I opened the door. At night i would look out and he would be laying on the box and its like he knew i was looking cause his head went up, gives me the cutest look and meows, and i unlock the door to open and he's already sitting there and runs in. He did that alot. Sometimes would even scratch on the door. Sometimes I'mnot sure where he would be outside of my yard but as soon as i come outside to let the dog out, or even my uncle or my mom-he comes popping up. He knows the sound of the dog leash, the food bowl and even our voices. Another thing that he knew while being in the housr was the sound of cans, and the can opener, and that when you open the refrigerator he knows there are goodies in there. I gave him treats..like little pieces of chicken. Also when i pick him up to hold him he lays flat on my chest/stomach with his arms on each side of my neck. Like a hug. I love it.
Now, the day he went missing. It was a bad day. I was up all night taking care of my grandmother and went to sleep in the morning. By that time he was sleeping in the box outside. I didn't see him sooner to let him inside. I sae him earlier that night in the yard. By the time i went to look and unlock the door he wasn't there. I figured he would come back. But he didn't til a little later. So i went to sleep, my mom got up tokd her he's in the box sleeping. Later on she wakes me up saying my grandmother had to go to the hospital because she wasn't good. I got up made a cup of tea. I looked out like i didbevery single day at all hours to check on him to let him inside. He was sleeping in the box. It was like 930pm on a friday night and with the ambulance on its way and me having to focus on my grandmother and what they were doing to her (she is bed ridden and needed oxygen that night and that's what they were doing before they had to take her) i had to write down her medication and i couldnt let him in. I thought when all this excitement dies down and my grandmother is taken i will let him in. Well i went outside in the front and the neighbor wanted to know what was going on and i was telling her. By the time i got back inside it was 1130pm. 2 hours. Time just flew by with what was going on. I came in and the first thing i did was look outside to let him in. I didn't see him in the box. So i went outside and called him. Nothing. Thought maybe he took his normal walk. 12am tried again. Nothing. Tried at 1am. Nothing. All night i kept looking out and nothing. My mom was at the hospital with my grandmother. I was here with my uncle. Wasn't sure what was happening with my grandmother. All we knew was it wasn't good. So i was up all night tired, and worried. I was worried about my grandmother and my cat. But didn't think it was that serious with my cat cause he goes for little walks. Morning i was still awake waiting to hear about my grandmother..no word about her or my cat. My mom came home, they gave ny grandma medication and doing what they can. My uncle went out walking to the store and looked/called for my cat. Nothing. Then he went to dialysis then to the hospital to visit my grandmother. So fast forward a little. My grandma was getting better a little at a time..but still no kitty. i was running on little to no sleep and would try to nap but between the 2 i slept on and off. While i slept my mom went around the block that weekend. And so did my uncle..calling him/looking-nothing. Monday..me and my mom went around the alley (we have alleys between the blocks) calling him-looking-nothing. We went around a block my uncle didn't go through..nothing.
The way the area is there are blocks but in between there are alleys..kind-of like you can go in and out the back of your house and it's either fenced in like mine with grass or no just cement and people have little driveways or more like a parking space..cause it's not that big. So from my back yard there's the alley then the other neighbors back yard. I keep calling him from my gate-nothing. My uncle walks to the stores-nothing. My grandma was in the hospital for 2 weeks so i couldn't do as much looking as I would've liked and wanted to. And i only have my mom and uncle to help me and they aren't in the best health either. But we were at the hospital and then went looking for my cat when we could. My uncle did more than me..for me when I couldn't. We did go through the alleys around here amd even the blocks. But there's no place for a cat to hide in the front of these houses. I do have one kind of friend neighbor..sent him a picture cause he has camera infront and back but hasnt seen my cat..just the usual ones around. When my uncle went looking he asked around and described him..there's no cat around here that looks like him. But no luck. I showed a few people in the back alley here a picture but no luck. The one neighbor her and her 2 sons know my cat from being with me here but haven't seen it. Everyone that's outside that we ask and describe or show a picture to around here hasn't seen him. Just the usual. There's still other people i can ask in the back alley from the block over. But they aren't out. The other two neighbors on the one side know my cat amd like him the way he looks but haven't seen him. The one neighbors son(he likes how my cat looks lol) and his girlfriend are looking out for him everytime they go out-they have a cat and a dog. I tell them even if you took him in it wouls be better cause atleast i know.
I know when he left that night it was the back cause i was in the front with the ambulance and neighbor. He didn't come to the front. But one of the usual cats came running out of the alley in between the house(i live in a row house-there are little walk ways in between)but i didn't think anything of it. I figured he got scared by the kids next door. And figured by cat was ok in the box. He knows the neighbors next door and the kids but never goes near them. We don't have a fence to seperate the yards with those neighbors (we are the only ones that dont have a fence).but the back is fenced in.he never goes next door. The only way he leaves the yard is squeezing through the gate or jumping over. Our gate is even locked-ours and the neighbors so noone can get in. He avoids the people next door when he's outside. I keep an eye out. But i feel so bad like it's my fault because I didn't let him in when I woke up or didn't check to see if he was there when the other cat(one of the usuals)ran out cause i figured he was fine and safe in the box like always when he's outside..with my grandmother being taken to the hospital I wasn't thinking straight. Like i said before there are a few ususals that come around and he doesnt have a problem with them..only one and that's the one that ran out but i know that wasn't the problem. Cause it's been 2 years and this never happened. There has been a new ish cat coming maybe 2 weeks before my cat disappeared but my cat was still here. One time when that cat got close enough to me on the porch and was ok with me- it was him, my cat, and the girl cat all together on the porch waiting for food. But usually i let mine in and feed the others outside. He's a calm cool cat to me and my family but doesn't go near kids or people. I think he's a very aware cat. I miss him so much. And i think it's my fault. My mom said earlier that day she put food out and pet him for a while but he didn't want to come in. My neighbor said that day he was just laying in the yard.
I just dont understand how he just like disappeared in 2 hours and didn't come when I called 3 different times that night. Even looking for him. I brought the small food bag and i would shake it and scoop food calling him, or just talking so he can hear my voice. You can see in the yards here so I've been looking, doing the food, calling his name(he knows his name since I've been calling him that for 2 years and he comes to it and looks at me), i even call out my other pets names that he knows and nicknames and other things i usually say to him. People probably hear me and think I'm crazy walking with food saying all these things. But no luck. I'm scared to put flyers cause i don't want to attract wrong people and put a target on him..I'm scared of what people might do. I go around and ask people and show pictures. I called the humaine society near me but no cat with the description, asked garbage men..nothing., mail man-nothing. I even emailed the humaine society last week twice so i can email a picture but no answer. I emailed one in town that's 30 mins away they emailed yesterday and said they dont take strays just the ones that are signed over by people/owners. I don't have a car. But they told me to call them and file a report. I have to call when they open. By the time they emailed me it was too late. I don't know what else to do..i feel so helpless, it's my fault. I don't understand how he just disappeared after being here for so long everyday. The others are still here. Even a younger cat that was around last summer that i didnt see all winter but popped up this summer again. I don't understand. He's been here through everything, bad neighbors that didn't like the cats being around, noisy mean kids. I protected him since the very beginning before i took him in..telling people he was mine so they wouldnt do anything to him. Now i feel like i failed him. And the worst part is i didn't even get to give him a kiss and talk to him like i do every time he wanted to go out. My grandma is home and doing better-somewhat and i thank god for it. I was praying for her..still do as usual but now especially I'm praying for my cat. I always pray for my family and my pets and strays and other things. I've lost a dog and cat when i was younger and it's like that all over again but now as an adult. I don't understand how he just disappeared and i think the worst. The looking we did we don't see him dead anywhere. I know he wouldnt go in a car or truck or just up to anyone..he wasnt like that. I get so emotional when I'm out in the back, doing the usual-garbage and grass cause my buddy isn't here.and at night i look out hoping to see him waiting to come in. I dont trust walking around here in the middle of the night. I still have my 2 cats and 1 dog but even they look for him. It's just sad and i cry every day.
I'm sorry this is so long just wanted to say everything I could at once. And there are still a few more details..but I'll wait. Sorry if there are any typos. Anyway words/advice/opinions i would appreciate it. Thank you very much. Especially if you read this very long post of mine. Sorry. I had no where else to go to talk to anyone.
One day a cat comes in our yard and was eating. He would come once in a while. Me and my mom went around the block and would see him in the guys yard that the cat we took in came from. So I'm guessing it was one of his and maybe the 2 can be related..i strongly think that. He would be the only one to tell me. Anyway he started coming here everyday. He got used to me and became very friendly with me. He started staying here everyday and took over the box we put out there for the other one-the girl. By that time she didn't stay as much. But we put another box outside for her. Turns out she belonged to the people few houses down. We know that because we called the cops thinking they were trying to hurt her but they had papers for her. I don't know but to this day she's still outside-almost everyday she's here she was even here today.
Anyway back to the one that came everyday and took over the box. He becamey buddy very quickly. He even wanted to come in so we let him in. I live with my family cause they aren't very good health wise especially my grandmother. My uncle even wanted him to come in. He would stay for a while then wanted to leave. So we kept doing that until he got used to the house. I already have 1 dog and 1 cat since he was a kitten and is around 10 now. Plus the one i took in a while before that might be related to him and i think that came from the same guy. He never wanted to stay longer than maybe 2 hours. He would come in eat,sleep, play a little then want to leave. I even put cat litter by the back door for him but he never used it. I guess because the guy let him out so much he got used to using the bathroom outside. He only used the litter box upstairs once. I would put him in it but nothing.
So i took care of him for a year inside and outside but the last year he was inside more than before. He would stay on my porch, lay inside the box, on top of the box, on the chair that i put shirts for cushion, or just on the porch or in the grass and sometimes in a little bush we have. He was here every single day, just about all day. He would leave the yard for a while but always come back. 2 years in total, like I said this past year more inside than before. He came inside everyday. I tried to keep him inside but he always wanted to go outside to use the bathroom. If I didn't let him outside he wouldnt go in the litter box he would go on the floor. I don't like telling people that but that's the reason why he wanted to go out. Like i said before he only used the box once. My cat wasn't used to him at first and he would stare at him. The dog and the cat i took in..not a problem at all. He didn't have a problem with any of them. When he comes in, he lays on the chair next to me, or on the floor next to the chair i sit in. He would sleep there or even sleep on all 4 chairs in the kitchen(they're a little cushioned). He would even just lay on the floor curled up. He wasnt sure about upstairs even though he went there a few times he would stay downstairs. We got a new microwave and the Styrofoam that comes around it was on the floor and he layed on it and kind of made it his bed. It was so cute. He's a big cat. So i figured i would leave that on the floor for him in the kitchen under the table. That kinda became his bed. Other than laying on chairs and floor. I tried to keep him in all day but like i said he never wanted to stay in. But he came in everyday for a while basically in and out everyday. Him and the one i took in would even sit and lay on the porch together. One on top of each box. He even layed on an recycling bin that we have an awning folded on..he made that his bed too. The porch became his i guess. Other cats would come and eat-the ones that have been around for the same amount of time plus the girl that belongs to those people(they got used to each other and would eat together outside). They never bothered each other. New strays came and went for a while. Never bothered. There's only one he would have a litle problem with that i would have to watch them so they didnt fight. Everytime I was outside in the back he was with me-always. I cut the grass-he's with me laying there, rolling around in the grass, laying on the porch, I take the garbage out-he follows from back yard to front then back to the back yard. I loved it and thought it was so cute. All day/all night he was in and out. I always let him in when he wanted to come in. Sometimes I would try to get him in but he wouldn't come in. Of course he was in more in the winter than summer. Sometimes he wouldn'tcome in. Maybe cause he was so used to being outside. Other times he ran inside as soo. As I opened the door. At night i would look out and he would be laying on the box and its like he knew i was looking cause his head went up, gives me the cutest look and meows, and i unlock the door to open and he's already sitting there and runs in. He did that alot. Sometimes would even scratch on the door. Sometimes I'mnot sure where he would be outside of my yard but as soon as i come outside to let the dog out, or even my uncle or my mom-he comes popping up. He knows the sound of the dog leash, the food bowl and even our voices. Another thing that he knew while being in the housr was the sound of cans, and the can opener, and that when you open the refrigerator he knows there are goodies in there. I gave him treats..like little pieces of chicken. Also when i pick him up to hold him he lays flat on my chest/stomach with his arms on each side of my neck. Like a hug. I love it.
Now, the day he went missing. It was a bad day. I was up all night taking care of my grandmother and went to sleep in the morning. By that time he was sleeping in the box outside. I didn't see him sooner to let him inside. I sae him earlier that night in the yard. By the time i went to look and unlock the door he wasn't there. I figured he would come back. But he didn't til a little later. So i went to sleep, my mom got up tokd her he's in the box sleeping. Later on she wakes me up saying my grandmother had to go to the hospital because she wasn't good. I got up made a cup of tea. I looked out like i didbevery single day at all hours to check on him to let him inside. He was sleeping in the box. It was like 930pm on a friday night and with the ambulance on its way and me having to focus on my grandmother and what they were doing to her (she is bed ridden and needed oxygen that night and that's what they were doing before they had to take her) i had to write down her medication and i couldnt let him in. I thought when all this excitement dies down and my grandmother is taken i will let him in. Well i went outside in the front and the neighbor wanted to know what was going on and i was telling her. By the time i got back inside it was 1130pm. 2 hours. Time just flew by with what was going on. I came in and the first thing i did was look outside to let him in. I didn't see him in the box. So i went outside and called him. Nothing. Thought maybe he took his normal walk. 12am tried again. Nothing. Tried at 1am. Nothing. All night i kept looking out and nothing. My mom was at the hospital with my grandmother. I was here with my uncle. Wasn't sure what was happening with my grandmother. All we knew was it wasn't good. So i was up all night tired, and worried. I was worried about my grandmother and my cat. But didn't think it was that serious with my cat cause he goes for little walks. Morning i was still awake waiting to hear about my grandmother..no word about her or my cat. My mom came home, they gave ny grandma medication and doing what they can. My uncle went out walking to the store and looked/called for my cat. Nothing. Then he went to dialysis then to the hospital to visit my grandmother. So fast forward a little. My grandma was getting better a little at a time..but still no kitty. i was running on little to no sleep and would try to nap but between the 2 i slept on and off. While i slept my mom went around the block that weekend. And so did my uncle..calling him/looking-nothing. Monday..me and my mom went around the alley (we have alleys between the blocks) calling him-looking-nothing. We went around a block my uncle didn't go through..nothing.
The way the area is there are blocks but in between there are alleys..kind-of like you can go in and out the back of your house and it's either fenced in like mine with grass or no just cement and people have little driveways or more like a parking space..cause it's not that big. So from my back yard there's the alley then the other neighbors back yard. I keep calling him from my gate-nothing. My uncle walks to the stores-nothing. My grandma was in the hospital for 2 weeks so i couldn't do as much looking as I would've liked and wanted to. And i only have my mom and uncle to help me and they aren't in the best health either. But we were at the hospital and then went looking for my cat when we could. My uncle did more than me..for me when I couldn't. We did go through the alleys around here amd even the blocks. But there's no place for a cat to hide in the front of these houses. I do have one kind of friend neighbor..sent him a picture cause he has camera infront and back but hasnt seen my cat..just the usual ones around. When my uncle went looking he asked around and described him..there's no cat around here that looks like him. But no luck. I showed a few people in the back alley here a picture but no luck. The one neighbor her and her 2 sons know my cat from being with me here but haven't seen it. Everyone that's outside that we ask and describe or show a picture to around here hasn't seen him. Just the usual. There's still other people i can ask in the back alley from the block over. But they aren't out. The other two neighbors on the one side know my cat amd like him the way he looks but haven't seen him. The one neighbors son(he likes how my cat looks lol) and his girlfriend are looking out for him everytime they go out-they have a cat and a dog. I tell them even if you took him in it wouls be better cause atleast i know.
I know when he left that night it was the back cause i was in the front with the ambulance and neighbor. He didn't come to the front. But one of the usual cats came running out of the alley in between the house(i live in a row house-there are little walk ways in between)but i didn't think anything of it. I figured he got scared by the kids next door. And figured by cat was ok in the box. He knows the neighbors next door and the kids but never goes near them. We don't have a fence to seperate the yards with those neighbors (we are the only ones that dont have a fence).but the back is fenced in.he never goes next door. The only way he leaves the yard is squeezing through the gate or jumping over. Our gate is even locked-ours and the neighbors so noone can get in. He avoids the people next door when he's outside. I keep an eye out. But i feel so bad like it's my fault because I didn't let him in when I woke up or didn't check to see if he was there when the other cat(one of the usuals)ran out cause i figured he was fine and safe in the box like always when he's outside..with my grandmother being taken to the hospital I wasn't thinking straight. Like i said before there are a few ususals that come around and he doesnt have a problem with them..only one and that's the one that ran out but i know that wasn't the problem. Cause it's been 2 years and this never happened. There has been a new ish cat coming maybe 2 weeks before my cat disappeared but my cat was still here. One time when that cat got close enough to me on the porch and was ok with me- it was him, my cat, and the girl cat all together on the porch waiting for food. But usually i let mine in and feed the others outside. He's a calm cool cat to me and my family but doesn't go near kids or people. I think he's a very aware cat. I miss him so much. And i think it's my fault. My mom said earlier that day she put food out and pet him for a while but he didn't want to come in. My neighbor said that day he was just laying in the yard.
I just dont understand how he just like disappeared in 2 hours and didn't come when I called 3 different times that night. Even looking for him. I brought the small food bag and i would shake it and scoop food calling him, or just talking so he can hear my voice. You can see in the yards here so I've been looking, doing the food, calling his name(he knows his name since I've been calling him that for 2 years and he comes to it and looks at me), i even call out my other pets names that he knows and nicknames and other things i usually say to him. People probably hear me and think I'm crazy walking with food saying all these things. But no luck. I'm scared to put flyers cause i don't want to attract wrong people and put a target on him..I'm scared of what people might do. I go around and ask people and show pictures. I called the humaine society near me but no cat with the description, asked garbage men..nothing., mail man-nothing. I even emailed the humaine society last week twice so i can email a picture but no answer. I emailed one in town that's 30 mins away they emailed yesterday and said they dont take strays just the ones that are signed over by people/owners. I don't have a car. But they told me to call them and file a report. I have to call when they open. By the time they emailed me it was too late. I don't know what else to do..i feel so helpless, it's my fault. I don't understand how he just disappeared after being here for so long everyday. The others are still here. Even a younger cat that was around last summer that i didnt see all winter but popped up this summer again. I don't understand. He's been here through everything, bad neighbors that didn't like the cats being around, noisy mean kids. I protected him since the very beginning before i took him in..telling people he was mine so they wouldnt do anything to him. Now i feel like i failed him. And the worst part is i didn't even get to give him a kiss and talk to him like i do every time he wanted to go out. My grandma is home and doing better-somewhat and i thank god for it. I was praying for her..still do as usual but now especially I'm praying for my cat. I always pray for my family and my pets and strays and other things. I've lost a dog and cat when i was younger and it's like that all over again but now as an adult. I don't understand how he just disappeared and i think the worst. The looking we did we don't see him dead anywhere. I know he wouldnt go in a car or truck or just up to anyone..he wasnt like that. I get so emotional when I'm out in the back, doing the usual-garbage and grass cause my buddy isn't here.and at night i look out hoping to see him waiting to come in. I dont trust walking around here in the middle of the night. I still have my 2 cats and 1 dog but even they look for him. It's just sad and i cry every day.
I'm sorry this is so long just wanted to say everything I could at once. And there are still a few more details..but I'll wait. Sorry if there are any typos. Anyway words/advice/opinions i would appreciate it. Thank you very much. Especially if you read this very long post of mine. Sorry. I had no where else to go to talk to anyone.