Hey,
I was hoping someone could help me figure out how to tame my little bully....
I have two kitties that I adopted a week or so ago. Monty is seven years old and has the disposition of an arch angel. He's very sweet and calm, loves to be petted and talked to, and is over all very mild mannered. I fell in love with Monty the moment I saw him at the petco by my house.
Monty had a little buddy in the cell next to him named Meeko. He's a feisty orange tabby that LOVVVES attention. And he is so goofy, we chirped at him and played with him and Monty while we filled out Monty's paper work. Then one of the sales associates told me that Meeko was going to be euthanized if he didn't get adopted soon and my fiance and I decided that we would take them both home with us.
The sales associate told us before we left that they played together threw the bars all the time and were like brothers anyway, so it would be a good match..... Yea.... we were lied too. Both about the Meeko being put down soon and that they got along.
I love my kitties. Monty is an angel and Meeko is my playful little monster. But my monster is also a bully
We didn't separate them at all at first because from what we were told they were best friends, so why make it a harder transition by separating them?
Everything was alright for a day or so and then I noticed that Monty wasn't coming downstairs at all. He was just hanging out in the upstairs hallway and you couldn't get him to come down for anything. which was weird because he was all over the dining room when I first brought them home. The vet said that it was probably just him adjusting. It would be harder for him because he's older and we adopted him with an upper respiratory infection so between big changes and being sick he may just want to lay low..
That was No biggie, until we noticed a few nerve racking behavior changes with the little ones. Monty got scared, fast. He started hiding behind the toilet in the upstairs bathroom with his head down between his paws. He would whimper whenever I tried to coax him out and if i did manage to call enough he would slink real fast into my lap bury his face in my tummy and whimper and shake really badly. he wouldn't eat or drink either. His behavior scared us to death. My fiance usually cant sleep with the cats in the room, but he insisted that Monty stay in the bedroom with us so that we could keep an eye on him. The next day we took him to the vet and she thought that it might be a reaction to his meds so she lightened the dosage and sent him home. his behavior continued despite the fact that i pretty much stopped his medication.
Around the same time we noticed odd behavior in Meeko as well. He would sit either at the bottom of the stairs or in the middle of the staircase and make this weird long meow... it sounds sad not aggressive. It's like hes crying or something. sorry to be so vague, but I've never heard anything like it. Every now and then he would come up to eat out of Monty's bowl or lay down on the landing near Monty, but he wasn't aggressive at all. Sometimes he would do that moew/howl thing that sounded like mourning, but none of it made sense to us at all till last night.... and even then, I'm still really not sure.
Monty and Meeko were sitting outside my bedroom door about 3 feet from each other and Meeko started his Meow cry again. We watched him to see if it was being provoked by something or if he was nursing a limb or anything like that. He just meowed and looked at Monty his ears weren't even back, then he started attacking Monty with a fierceness. We threw a blanket over them and Meeko didn't let up. It took a full jug of water being poured while I charged at him and screamed bloody murder before Meeko got distracted enough to let Monty go. It was very disturbing.
We are thinking that Meeko must have attacked Monty like that on the second day at some point and that's why he went upstairs and got so depressed. Thankfully the depression stopped after the 4th day or so, but he still wouldn't come down and when Meeko Meowed he would shake like a leaf on a tree.
As a resolution, since we saw them fight they have been completely separated. Meeko stays in the upstairs spare bedroom and Monty has free rein of the house. He never goes to far past the landing though. It's very sad. We are hoping that he puts his scent down and that when Meeko comes back downstairs he smells Monty and realises that he has to share territory. So far no luck. It's only been a day, but Im really worried.
Meeko has seen the house as his domain since the beginning and i hope Im not to late in trying the new introduction thing. Im also hoping that Meeko's alright. I've never seen that kind of behavior in a cat and Im not sure that it's normal. They have hung out together plenty of times before and there were no problems that we noticed. They didn't snuggle or anything like that. It was more like they just acknowledged each other and shared space. I don't know and my vet isn't exactly helpful. we've been to the vet 4 times the past week. Between the first appointment, Monty's respritory infection appointment, deworming both boys after discovering a nasty tape worm infestation, and one depression visit with the behavior DR, we are flat broke. I can't afford to take them to the behavioral specialist this month, but I would do about anything that I could to get to the bottom of the behavior issues they are having.
i feel terrible about it now. If I knew he was aggressive I would have been sure to introduce them slowly, but i thought that they were already well acquainted. Hopefully it is just a territory issue that can be worked out.
Any ideas? Im sorry, I know this has been an insainly long thread and I thank you soooo much for putting up with it. I love my boys and I just wanted to make sure you had all the info.
thanks again guys
~Noi
I was hoping someone could help me figure out how to tame my little bully....
I have two kitties that I adopted a week or so ago. Monty is seven years old and has the disposition of an arch angel. He's very sweet and calm, loves to be petted and talked to, and is over all very mild mannered. I fell in love with Monty the moment I saw him at the petco by my house.
Monty had a little buddy in the cell next to him named Meeko. He's a feisty orange tabby that LOVVVES attention. And he is so goofy, we chirped at him and played with him and Monty while we filled out Monty's paper work. Then one of the sales associates told me that Meeko was going to be euthanized if he didn't get adopted soon and my fiance and I decided that we would take them both home with us.
The sales associate told us before we left that they played together threw the bars all the time and were like brothers anyway, so it would be a good match..... Yea.... we were lied too. Both about the Meeko being put down soon and that they got along.
I love my kitties. Monty is an angel and Meeko is my playful little monster. But my monster is also a bully
Everything was alright for a day or so and then I noticed that Monty wasn't coming downstairs at all. He was just hanging out in the upstairs hallway and you couldn't get him to come down for anything. which was weird because he was all over the dining room when I first brought them home. The vet said that it was probably just him adjusting. It would be harder for him because he's older and we adopted him with an upper respiratory infection so between big changes and being sick he may just want to lay low..
That was No biggie, until we noticed a few nerve racking behavior changes with the little ones. Monty got scared, fast. He started hiding behind the toilet in the upstairs bathroom with his head down between his paws. He would whimper whenever I tried to coax him out and if i did manage to call enough he would slink real fast into my lap bury his face in my tummy and whimper and shake really badly. he wouldn't eat or drink either. His behavior scared us to death. My fiance usually cant sleep with the cats in the room, but he insisted that Monty stay in the bedroom with us so that we could keep an eye on him. The next day we took him to the vet and she thought that it might be a reaction to his meds so she lightened the dosage and sent him home. his behavior continued despite the fact that i pretty much stopped his medication.
Around the same time we noticed odd behavior in Meeko as well. He would sit either at the bottom of the stairs or in the middle of the staircase and make this weird long meow... it sounds sad not aggressive. It's like hes crying or something. sorry to be so vague, but I've never heard anything like it. Every now and then he would come up to eat out of Monty's bowl or lay down on the landing near Monty, but he wasn't aggressive at all. Sometimes he would do that moew/howl thing that sounded like mourning, but none of it made sense to us at all till last night.... and even then, I'm still really not sure.
Monty and Meeko were sitting outside my bedroom door about 3 feet from each other and Meeko started his Meow cry again. We watched him to see if it was being provoked by something or if he was nursing a limb or anything like that. He just meowed and looked at Monty his ears weren't even back, then he started attacking Monty with a fierceness. We threw a blanket over them and Meeko didn't let up. It took a full jug of water being poured while I charged at him and screamed bloody murder before Meeko got distracted enough to let Monty go. It was very disturbing.
We are thinking that Meeko must have attacked Monty like that on the second day at some point and that's why he went upstairs and got so depressed. Thankfully the depression stopped after the 4th day or so, but he still wouldn't come down and when Meeko Meowed he would shake like a leaf on a tree.
As a resolution, since we saw them fight they have been completely separated. Meeko stays in the upstairs spare bedroom and Monty has free rein of the house. He never goes to far past the landing though. It's very sad. We are hoping that he puts his scent down and that when Meeko comes back downstairs he smells Monty and realises that he has to share territory. So far no luck. It's only been a day, but Im really worried.
Meeko has seen the house as his domain since the beginning and i hope Im not to late in trying the new introduction thing. Im also hoping that Meeko's alright. I've never seen that kind of behavior in a cat and Im not sure that it's normal. They have hung out together plenty of times before and there were no problems that we noticed. They didn't snuggle or anything like that. It was more like they just acknowledged each other and shared space. I don't know and my vet isn't exactly helpful. we've been to the vet 4 times the past week. Between the first appointment, Monty's respritory infection appointment, deworming both boys after discovering a nasty tape worm infestation, and one depression visit with the behavior DR, we are flat broke. I can't afford to take them to the behavioral specialist this month, but I would do about anything that I could to get to the bottom of the behavior issues they are having.
i feel terrible about it now. If I knew he was aggressive I would have been sure to introduce them slowly, but i thought that they were already well acquainted. Hopefully it is just a territory issue that can be worked out.
Any ideas? Im sorry, I know this has been an insainly long thread and I thank you soooo much for putting up with it. I love my boys and I just wanted to make sure you had all the info.
thanks again guys
~Noi
