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I really appreciate that - I think a big factor with the stress is that I don't have options to do a full-on introduction where one gets a saferoom and all that. So I've just been trying to make do with the space I have and I hope it is working.The stress level thing is very real. Anyone who has ever been in that situation knows you can't just "stop being anxious", I'm sorry this is affecting you so badly. It doesn't sound like they are anywhere NEAR getting to that point where you'd have to re-home one, IMO.
On your own stress level. Can you feel yourself tensing when you see them looking at one another? Do you feel your body (mostly your shoulders and jawline) tense up? Do you find yourself holding your breath without realizing it, or leaning towards them without realizing it?
I am definitely doing all of the things you noted while observing the cats. Even the vet gave me a very friendly little bit of advice of "stop watching them" and I completely understand how that might place them more on edge. So I've definitely been trying to let the staring happen and hopefully resolve itself.
Yah I will say that this whole process has me so much more tuned into them than I ever have been before. Because they got along so well they've always been fairly easy to manage. But now that I've spent 2.5 weeks observing them closely (and reading endlessly about cat behavior) I feel like I know them on an entire other level.It might be beneficial to uncover the boxes so no one can get cornered in one. Not sure about moving them, so long as there are multiple escape options.
Cats are a really involved pet - more than most people think. Their health and reactions can be so subtle that it takes a lot of energy and focus to care for them.
If you can take breaks outside the house, even just a walk. Managing your stress will help them too. You already know this of course, but it doesn't hurt to hear it again.
One interesting thing I've realized is that I think the cats do better with each other at ground level in the kitchen/living room area. They do perfectly fine on perches and what not in my room (the bed, my desk, the chair, the various towers) but I think if they are both on the ground it's a little iffier. For example, I tried to feed them both in my room last night and while DM was happy to eat on the floor Bucket would only eat in the tower. But then this morning they were both hanging out in the kitchen together so I figured I'd try feeding them there and sure enough they were eating side by side. That's the other half of this: DM seems like she is closer to "normal" than Bucket. I think continuing with the kitchen feedings instead of trying to do my room is a good idea.