I have two kittens from separate litters: S (spayed female, 8 months, 5.5 lbs) and D (neutered male, 8 months, 9.5 lbs). When we first introduced them we took care to do a slow introduction and did all the tricks, such as feeding them through the door and site/scent swapping. For a while, they always slept, played, and groomed together. However, recently S seems to be getting very annoyed at D. Ever since they first started playing, she has always been very vocal with lots of yowling.
S has recently been spayed and due to complications with her incision site she was confined to a large dog crate for a month. S and D still interacted with each other at this time but in a very supervised and muted way (no playing).
Now she is fully recovered from the surgery and they were able to resume living together as usual. But now when they wrestle it seems like she is genuinely upset and hissing a lot. Usually S will be minding her own business, such as looking out the window, then D will come over and tackle her and wrestle her. After a few seconds of this, S gets upset, hisses, and runs away. At first this was not much of an issue, but now it is happening multiple times every hour.
I think what is going on is that S used to be bigger and stronger than D, but because D has significantly outgrown her, his playing has become too rough for her. I don't think D is intending to hurt S, but he is a slow learner and I'm not quite sure he understands why she is mad because he will quickly re-engage her after she hisses and runs away. D also has freakishly long and sharp claws and I don't know if he understands how to play with them in. Is it possible to teach him how to play nicer? Or should I just let them work it out in their own way? They still groom each other and occasionally sleep next to each other so it seems as if they still like each other.
S has recently been spayed and due to complications with her incision site she was confined to a large dog crate for a month. S and D still interacted with each other at this time but in a very supervised and muted way (no playing).
Now she is fully recovered from the surgery and they were able to resume living together as usual. But now when they wrestle it seems like she is genuinely upset and hissing a lot. Usually S will be minding her own business, such as looking out the window, then D will come over and tackle her and wrestle her. After a few seconds of this, S gets upset, hisses, and runs away. At first this was not much of an issue, but now it is happening multiple times every hour.
I think what is going on is that S used to be bigger and stronger than D, but because D has significantly outgrown her, his playing has become too rough for her. I don't think D is intending to hurt S, but he is a slow learner and I'm not quite sure he understands why she is mad because he will quickly re-engage her after she hisses and runs away. D also has freakishly long and sharp claws and I don't know if he understands how to play with them in. Is it possible to teach him how to play nicer? Or should I just let them work it out in their own way? They still groom each other and occasionally sleep next to each other so it seems as if they still like each other.