6 months ago, I acquired a 5-month old Bengal from a grey-market breeder. The breeder told me the kitten was "afraid of strangers" but the breeder handled her O.K. When I brought the kitten home, it was obvious she was terrified of all people and unwilling to be touched or picked up. Dakini has gotten to the point where she will eat goodies out of my hand and come when called, and she loves to play with me, but she runs if I try to pet her and screams when I try to hold on to her. I have had to catch her a few times, which is very difficult, and she becomes terrified and avoids me for days afterwards. At the same time, she is so needy that she drives her 4-year-old companion crazy with excessive attention-getting behavior, until he growls and hisses when she comes close. Has anyone dealt with such a cat? Other than practice endless patience, what can I do?