Our daughter's room causes me much dismay. I spent three months of my life painting, measuring, shopping for, refinishing, sewing, repainting, putting together furniture, hanging shelves, etc. so she would have a nice space.
I know there's a saying that something looks like "a tornado went through it" and that is not an overstatement. She is always working with crafts, sewing, knitting, writing, drawing, and cutting things out of paper. Everything is everywhere. All of her stuff has a place to be so there's no excuse.
I call it the hell-hole. I grew up in an unnatural family and our rooms had to always be perfectly neat and clean. I didn't want to do that to her but now pendulum has swung the other way...
I keep the door closed when she's at school and she puts her own clothes away, but still I see it too much. I feel all my work was for nothing. I should have left the walls white and just stuck a bed and dresser in there.
Did you have a messy room when you were a kid? Did you change later? What did your parents expect? What is realistic to expect? Any words of advice for me? TIA!
p.s. Chaos makes me a little crazy so that doesn't help things.
I know there's a saying that something looks like "a tornado went through it" and that is not an overstatement. She is always working with crafts, sewing, knitting, writing, drawing, and cutting things out of paper. Everything is everywhere. All of her stuff has a place to be so there's no excuse.
I call it the hell-hole. I grew up in an unnatural family and our rooms had to always be perfectly neat and clean. I didn't want to do that to her but now pendulum has swung the other way...
I keep the door closed when she's at school and she puts her own clothes away, but still I see it too much. I feel all my work was for nothing. I should have left the walls white and just stuck a bed and dresser in there.
Did you have a messy room when you were a kid? Did you change later? What did your parents expect? What is realistic to expect? Any words of advice for me? TIA!
p.s. Chaos makes me a little crazy so that doesn't help things.