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I want to start by saying this isn't really a concern to me! It's more curiosity.
So I've always been curious about the dynamic between my two cats. The cat we had first is the youngest, we did want to get a younger second cat when we adopted her but it didn't quite work out due to some miscommunication on the shelter's part. My girls aren't the best of friends, but they do get along to a degree. I see them more as like when you see two kid siblings who fight a lot and sometimes get a bit rough, but deep down they love each other and when one is missing or trapped somewhere, the other is right there because they're concerned about them. They just aren't the most affectionate towards each other in a "regular" way, is how I see it.
Our youngest Annie we've had since she was a kitten and she hadn't been around other cats since then. Our second cat April was a few months older than Annie when we adopted her and had previously been in a foster home with other cats, so clearly she'd had more experience with other cats. I know you can't choose these things or force them to happen, but I always hoped Annie would remain the dominant one as I was scared she'd be upset with us for introducing another cat into her home that then became the dominant one, especially when they're not the best of friends.
I've read different things about how dominant cats act towards the other cat(s), and both of my cats show dominant behaviors differently. For example, Annie is always the one to groom April and she only really grooms her head. April never grooms Annie. But recently my husband told me that he read the dominant cat is the one to eat first at meal times, and the non-dominant one won't eat until the dominant one is. We have an automated feeder so their food gets dispensed at the same time, and even if Annie is closer to the feeder at the time, she'll always wait for April first before she starts eating. April is usually the one to eat first, but April is kind of a "no chill" cat as in, she's a bit heavy footed and laser focused on the task at hand, she's clumsy and barges through us or Annie no matter what whereas Annie is more "considerate". But also, there's been times where Annie will finish her meal first and stick her head in April's bowl even when April is still eating (this is a behavior I've been trying to stop, it's recent and Annie is pretty defiant) and April will either just keep eating or more often than not, will leave and let Annie finish her food for her.
Another behavior my husband said happens between the dominant and non-dominant cat is that if the non-dominant cat is lying/sleeping somewhere, and the dominant one comes in to take their spot, they'll move. April is usually the one to approach Annie and Annie will leave but this is very often accompanied by April nipping at Annie to get her to move rather than just her mere presence, and I try to stop it when I can.
Like I said, I'm not really concerned or worried about this dynamic, I'm just more curious and confused as it seems like they both show some kind of dominant behavior to one another. Are they "sharing" the spot of being sort of dominant?
So I've always been curious about the dynamic between my two cats. The cat we had first is the youngest, we did want to get a younger second cat when we adopted her but it didn't quite work out due to some miscommunication on the shelter's part. My girls aren't the best of friends, but they do get along to a degree. I see them more as like when you see two kid siblings who fight a lot and sometimes get a bit rough, but deep down they love each other and when one is missing or trapped somewhere, the other is right there because they're concerned about them. They just aren't the most affectionate towards each other in a "regular" way, is how I see it.
Our youngest Annie we've had since she was a kitten and she hadn't been around other cats since then. Our second cat April was a few months older than Annie when we adopted her and had previously been in a foster home with other cats, so clearly she'd had more experience with other cats. I know you can't choose these things or force them to happen, but I always hoped Annie would remain the dominant one as I was scared she'd be upset with us for introducing another cat into her home that then became the dominant one, especially when they're not the best of friends.
I've read different things about how dominant cats act towards the other cat(s), and both of my cats show dominant behaviors differently. For example, Annie is always the one to groom April and she only really grooms her head. April never grooms Annie. But recently my husband told me that he read the dominant cat is the one to eat first at meal times, and the non-dominant one won't eat until the dominant one is. We have an automated feeder so their food gets dispensed at the same time, and even if Annie is closer to the feeder at the time, she'll always wait for April first before she starts eating. April is usually the one to eat first, but April is kind of a "no chill" cat as in, she's a bit heavy footed and laser focused on the task at hand, she's clumsy and barges through us or Annie no matter what whereas Annie is more "considerate". But also, there's been times where Annie will finish her meal first and stick her head in April's bowl even when April is still eating (this is a behavior I've been trying to stop, it's recent and Annie is pretty defiant) and April will either just keep eating or more often than not, will leave and let Annie finish her food for her.
Another behavior my husband said happens between the dominant and non-dominant cat is that if the non-dominant cat is lying/sleeping somewhere, and the dominant one comes in to take their spot, they'll move. April is usually the one to approach Annie and Annie will leave but this is very often accompanied by April nipping at Annie to get her to move rather than just her mere presence, and I try to stop it when I can.
Like I said, I'm not really concerned or worried about this dynamic, I'm just more curious and confused as it seems like they both show some kind of dominant behavior to one another. Are they "sharing" the spot of being sort of dominant?