Hi everyone,
I refer a lot to the Cat Site forums but never signed up before. The reason why I did now is that I am very worried about my eldest, Nacho, being bullied by the new kitten.
We got Nacho last January right after he was neutered. He took to us (my boyfriend and I) right away and from day one was cuddling with me on the couch. He slowly became less of a cuddler but was always affectionate and friendly. He would greet visitors by lying on his back to get a belly rub. He is an indoor cat and we only let him out on the balcony when one of us is present.
We noticed early on that he was very curious about other cats that would come and "visit" him from the other side of the windows. He started miaowing very loudly so that we would let him out to meet these outdoor neighbor cats. We never did though and I thought that maybe he would like a companion.
That's when little Rouki came in, this past November. We followed very carefully the rules of introduction of cats. Nacho is a sweet sweet boy and was curious right away. Rouki however was very agressive (he is not old enough to have him neutered yet) and the first time they saw each other he puffed out his whole body trying to intimidate Nacho. That's when Nacho started hissing at him. This went on for a bit until they seemed to have accepted each other's presence, maybe two days in.
We were relieved to see Nacho trying to clean Rouki even though the little one is always way too excited and only wants to play. On week two they started taking naps together after bathing each other and we took this as a sign that they liked each other.
However I noticed that Rouki displays a bit of a bully behaviour towards Nacho: he always eats Nacho's food and not his own, Nacho does not eat when Rouki is nearby. When Nacho is drinking water he'll come and kind of put himself between Nacho and the bowl which makes Nacho leave. When Nacho is playing with somethig he comes and starts playing with it, so Nacho just watches him take over. Same if I try to play with him. He meows uncontrollably if I pick Nacho up to give him some love", this makes Nacho very uncomfortable and he leaves.
Also Nacho has lost some weight which makes me think he is not eating enough, he doesn't ask for belly rubs at the door anymore, he barely comes to greet me at the door, doesn't come when I call him if Rouki is with me (which is always) or if Rouki is not with me and I call the eldest he runs over instead.
I really don't want Nacho to be unhappy and this has been going on for 2-3 weeks now. The whole point of adopting the little one was so that Nacho would have a buddy to play with when we are at work. I love Rouki too but I can't stand having Nacho be like this. Please help me sort this out. Is it possible to have my bubbly Nacho back?
I refer a lot to the Cat Site forums but never signed up before. The reason why I did now is that I am very worried about my eldest, Nacho, being bullied by the new kitten.
We got Nacho last January right after he was neutered. He took to us (my boyfriend and I) right away and from day one was cuddling with me on the couch. He slowly became less of a cuddler but was always affectionate and friendly. He would greet visitors by lying on his back to get a belly rub. He is an indoor cat and we only let him out on the balcony when one of us is present.
We noticed early on that he was very curious about other cats that would come and "visit" him from the other side of the windows. He started miaowing very loudly so that we would let him out to meet these outdoor neighbor cats. We never did though and I thought that maybe he would like a companion.
That's when little Rouki came in, this past November. We followed very carefully the rules of introduction of cats. Nacho is a sweet sweet boy and was curious right away. Rouki however was very agressive (he is not old enough to have him neutered yet) and the first time they saw each other he puffed out his whole body trying to intimidate Nacho. That's when Nacho started hissing at him. This went on for a bit until they seemed to have accepted each other's presence, maybe two days in.
We were relieved to see Nacho trying to clean Rouki even though the little one is always way too excited and only wants to play. On week two they started taking naps together after bathing each other and we took this as a sign that they liked each other.
However I noticed that Rouki displays a bit of a bully behaviour towards Nacho: he always eats Nacho's food and not his own, Nacho does not eat when Rouki is nearby. When Nacho is drinking water he'll come and kind of put himself between Nacho and the bowl which makes Nacho leave. When Nacho is playing with somethig he comes and starts playing with it, so Nacho just watches him take over. Same if I try to play with him. He meows uncontrollably if I pick Nacho up to give him some love", this makes Nacho very uncomfortable and he leaves.
Also Nacho has lost some weight which makes me think he is not eating enough, he doesn't ask for belly rubs at the door anymore, he barely comes to greet me at the door, doesn't come when I call him if Rouki is with me (which is always) or if Rouki is not with me and I call the eldest he runs over instead.
I really don't want Nacho to be unhappy and this has been going on for 2-3 weeks now. The whole point of adopting the little one was so that Nacho would have a buddy to play with when we are at work. I love Rouki too but I can't stand having Nacho be like this. Please help me sort this out. Is it possible to have my bubbly Nacho back?