Hey Guys,
I'm new to this vBoard but not new to ferals. I've had my two girls Kaneta and Lotus for almost 3 years now. Kaneta is very feral and Lotus is a shy stray.
I'm facing a conundrum: I'm getting married in February and Kaneta only socializes with me. I get that is normal. At night when I'm going to sleep, we have our cuddle time and you wouldn't know she was feral. The rest of the day or when people are around she's hiding in her safe place like in her bed or behind the couch .
Problem is that I'm getting married and I want Kaneta to feel safe around the future-hubby. Problem is when he's over for the night, she won't cuddle or have anything to do with me (or him). Future-Hubby isn't as patient with feral cats. He just wants a loving lap-cat.
I'm thinking about putting her back in her cage a couple months before the wedding so that she can get used to Future-Hubby. My fear is that if she doesn't learn to open up to him, I might need to give her up and my only two options are a no-kill shelter (where I original got her from) or a barn that had a colony of ferals (I know someone).
Help! I don't want to have give her up if I don't have too. She's the most beautiful loving cat when she's not cowering for her life.
If you guys have more ideas beyond the cage, it would be appreciated.
Thanks guy!
I'm new to this vBoard but not new to ferals. I've had my two girls Kaneta and Lotus for almost 3 years now. Kaneta is very feral and Lotus is a shy stray.
I'm facing a conundrum: I'm getting married in February and Kaneta only socializes with me. I get that is normal. At night when I'm going to sleep, we have our cuddle time and you wouldn't know she was feral. The rest of the day or when people are around she's hiding in her safe place like in her bed or behind the couch .
Problem is that I'm getting married and I want Kaneta to feel safe around the future-hubby. Problem is when he's over for the night, she won't cuddle or have anything to do with me (or him). Future-Hubby isn't as patient with feral cats. He just wants a loving lap-cat.
I'm thinking about putting her back in her cage a couple months before the wedding so that she can get used to Future-Hubby. My fear is that if she doesn't learn to open up to him, I might need to give her up and my only two options are a no-kill shelter (where I original got her from) or a barn that had a colony of ferals (I know someone).
Help! I don't want to have give her up if I don't have too. She's the most beautiful loving cat when she's not cowering for her life.
If you guys have more ideas beyond the cage, it would be appreciated.
Thanks guy!