Two Thursdays ago, I lost my precious Ashton. It began as a most ordinary Thursday. I came home after work. As usual I put her in her harness and leash and let her enjoy the balcony--she LOVED to bathe under the sun there. And as usual I secured her leash so she couldn't get too close to the edges and I kept an eye on her while doing my own thing. I left the screen door open a little bit for when she was done. After awhile she walked in but was restrained by the leash. So I took it off and went to the kitchen to get her a treat, which she uncharacteristically didn't want. I turned to put away the treats and just...forgot about the screen door...Only a few minutes had passed when I suddenly realized the screen door was still open and Ashton was nowhere to be found. I rushed downstairs and Ashton was lying on the pavement...so helplessly...and a lady told me she saw her being run over by a car. I rushed her to my vet nearby while hoping and praying that she'd be okay. But it was too late; she was already gone...she wasn't barely 1.5 years old...
I couldn't believe how suddenly it happened. One moment she was sitting there licking her fur, the next moment, she was gone. It all happened too soon, too sudden, and too traumatic...The first week was really hard. I couldn't eat or sleep or stop crying. I was wrecked with guilt...if I had closed the screen door immediately after she walked back in, or if I never allowed her to go to the balcony at all (but she loved watching the outside world...). I had been very careful ever since I first led her out to the balcony, and after monitoring her behaviour over time, I began to relax but still always made sure that she had a harness on and a secured leash...HOW could I forget about closing the screen door...and WHY would this happen in the one time that she didn't have her harness and leash on?!
Sorry I'm rambling...sometimes I'm still angry at myself or at the driver or at the neighbourhood I live in--it is not a kind place for cats.
The first week after it happened, I couldn't go home, so I stayed with family and friends. And from this forum, some incredibly kind souls also reached out to me to lend a word and ear. I am extremely grateful for this online community. I couldn't have gotten to where I am now--able to sit here and write about the ordeal--without your support. Grieving is a process and I don't know how long it'll take me, but writing helps. And I want to share Ashton's stories through this post in the hopes that it'll help me remember all the good memories instead of those last horrible moments.
I choose to believe that Ashton is in heaven. It comforts me (however little) to think that she is in full health (she was born with a congenital condition with deformed ribs), that she has green grass to run on and lots of sunshine and animal friends, and none of the danger this earth has, and maybe her real parents are there, too. She's living a far better life than I could ever give her.
Oh but I miss her so much...
"...But should you call it back much sooner than we planned,
We'll brave the bitter grief that comes and try to understand..."
I couldn't believe how suddenly it happened. One moment she was sitting there licking her fur, the next moment, she was gone. It all happened too soon, too sudden, and too traumatic...The first week was really hard. I couldn't eat or sleep or stop crying. I was wrecked with guilt...if I had closed the screen door immediately after she walked back in, or if I never allowed her to go to the balcony at all (but she loved watching the outside world...). I had been very careful ever since I first led her out to the balcony, and after monitoring her behaviour over time, I began to relax but still always made sure that she had a harness on and a secured leash...HOW could I forget about closing the screen door...and WHY would this happen in the one time that she didn't have her harness and leash on?!
Sorry I'm rambling...sometimes I'm still angry at myself or at the driver or at the neighbourhood I live in--it is not a kind place for cats.
The first week after it happened, I couldn't go home, so I stayed with family and friends. And from this forum, some incredibly kind souls also reached out to me to lend a word and ear. I am extremely grateful for this online community. I couldn't have gotten to where I am now--able to sit here and write about the ordeal--without your support. Grieving is a process and I don't know how long it'll take me, but writing helps. And I want to share Ashton's stories through this post in the hopes that it'll help me remember all the good memories instead of those last horrible moments.
I choose to believe that Ashton is in heaven. It comforts me (however little) to think that she is in full health (she was born with a congenital condition with deformed ribs), that she has green grass to run on and lots of sunshine and animal friends, and none of the danger this earth has, and maybe her real parents are there, too. She's living a far better life than I could ever give her.
Oh but I miss her so much...
"...But should you call it back much sooner than we planned,
We'll brave the bitter grief that comes and try to understand..."