He sounds like my cat peaches,queen over me. She used to only want to be touched on her own time and a time limit how long she wants to be touched. If I'm on my couch never reach above her. She is now 10 and much more affectionate. Sometimes she wants something like food or attention. So wish she could. I do have a very affectionate cat that has never hissed or growled In 8 years.