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Hey, y'all. Me again. Same issues. I don't know what do to. I'm trying to remain calm and treat both my cats like normal because I know they pick up on my emotions, but I'm getting so stressed with this that I start to cry just thinking about it. I don't want to give up, I'm not planning on giving up, but what I'm doing just seems to be making things worse. I've never introduced cats before, I'm in over my head, I don't know what to do now. It seems like everyone in the world has gotten their cats together but me. For context, I'm about a month and a half into this, now. Chloe is 9 years old. Sasha is about 13 or 14 weeks. I have a pretty big (3 floors+basement) house.
So, last night. My friends mom suggested, (because Chloe mostly freaks out when Sasha is at eye level and basically... I don't know, whenever she's acting like another cat in her damn house I guess) that we try holding Chloe up and letting Sasha run around -- this way she can see Sasha moving, but won't necessarily be being chased. Sasha seems to see chase as a fun game, but it makes Chloe do this horrible scream and she runs and hides. So, I'm holding her, and we let Sasha go. Sasha runs past me and around my legs, and Chloe makes this HORRIBLE angry sound I've never heard before. She goes absolutely rigid in my arms and she won't settle, so we scoop Sasha and let Chloe go. Chloe immediately whirls on ME and starts trying to angrily swipe my legs. I've never seen her this angry at me before, I know it's silly but my feelings were really hurt? And for the rest of the night she would barely let me touch her. She let me pick her up for a little earlier today again, but she was really skittish so I just loved on her a little and then let her go.
We can't have them in the same room, basically. It feels really terrible because Sasha is really like... excited to play with Chloe. She practically vibrates when they're in sight of each other, and wiggles like she wants to go to her. Even though all Chloe does is hiss and growl at her, she really doesn't seem afraid. I also can't let them free roam because Sasha ALWAYS chases after Chloe when she's free to roam. In fact, even when I close Chloe is a room while she's cat napping, she'll just sit outside of the door she's in. She teases Chloe under the door, which I think she thinks is a game too but it seriously pisses off Chloe and I have to move Sasha back to her Safe Room and let Chloe out. If Sasha sticks her paw under the door frame, she lunges at it, but Sasha just rolls around sweetly on the other side.
Everyone keeps saying "maybe it's time to just let them go and see what happens" but I am so scared to. If sweet little Sasha gets hurt and I'm the one who brought her into my house I'm going to feel so terrible... And I've basically ruined Chloe's life by bringing another cat in here... She was SO nasty last night. She's never been like that before. I'd like to think Chloe wouldn't REALLY hurt Sasha, but she COULD. I don't KNOW. And my house is so freaking big, they move so much faster than me... If a game of chase takes off, I don't think I could keep up with them to separate if they get too close to one another.
Please, please tell me what to do. What can I do now?
So, last night. My friends mom suggested, (because Chloe mostly freaks out when Sasha is at eye level and basically... I don't know, whenever she's acting like another cat in her damn house I guess) that we try holding Chloe up and letting Sasha run around -- this way she can see Sasha moving, but won't necessarily be being chased. Sasha seems to see chase as a fun game, but it makes Chloe do this horrible scream and she runs and hides. So, I'm holding her, and we let Sasha go. Sasha runs past me and around my legs, and Chloe makes this HORRIBLE angry sound I've never heard before. She goes absolutely rigid in my arms and she won't settle, so we scoop Sasha and let Chloe go. Chloe immediately whirls on ME and starts trying to angrily swipe my legs. I've never seen her this angry at me before, I know it's silly but my feelings were really hurt? And for the rest of the night she would barely let me touch her. She let me pick her up for a little earlier today again, but she was really skittish so I just loved on her a little and then let her go.
We can't have them in the same room, basically. It feels really terrible because Sasha is really like... excited to play with Chloe. She practically vibrates when they're in sight of each other, and wiggles like she wants to go to her. Even though all Chloe does is hiss and growl at her, she really doesn't seem afraid. I also can't let them free roam because Sasha ALWAYS chases after Chloe when she's free to roam. In fact, even when I close Chloe is a room while she's cat napping, she'll just sit outside of the door she's in. She teases Chloe under the door, which I think she thinks is a game too but it seriously pisses off Chloe and I have to move Sasha back to her Safe Room and let Chloe out. If Sasha sticks her paw under the door frame, she lunges at it, but Sasha just rolls around sweetly on the other side.
Everyone keeps saying "maybe it's time to just let them go and see what happens" but I am so scared to. If sweet little Sasha gets hurt and I'm the one who brought her into my house I'm going to feel so terrible... And I've basically ruined Chloe's life by bringing another cat in here... She was SO nasty last night. She's never been like that before. I'd like to think Chloe wouldn't REALLY hurt Sasha, but she COULD. I don't KNOW. And my house is so freaking big, they move so much faster than me... If a game of chase takes off, I don't think I could keep up with them to separate if they get too close to one another.
Please, please tell me what to do. What can I do now?