Girlfriend has been with me for over a year. She belonged to my roomate, and we all lived together for about 3 years, then the roomate got married, moved out and (weep) took Girlfriend. I was totally heartbroken. The roomate then got a dog and Girlfriend hated the new living situation. When I finally bought a place of my own last year, the roomate gave her to me, since she knew I would care for her and that Girlfriend would be happy with me. We were a happy family, she'd come sleep with me at night, snuggle, give me kisses and when I came home from work she'd come out from wherever she was to tell me about her day of napping, stretching, eating, sleeping and whatever else happened that day.
Then, a few weeks ago, my best friend's grandmother died. The grandmother had a cat and my friend asked if I would take it; she couldn't bear the thought of giving her away or putting her into a shelter, and to be honest, I couldn't either. Cats are family members and you can't just dump them!! My friend has a dog, cat and a young daughter, but said she would take it if I didn't. I said yes. Girlfriend has been having a little "innapropriate peeing" problem lately (which I've been working on fixing), and once the vet cleared her of a UTI, I kind of almost thought "maybe she's lonely?" for some reason. Actually, when she lived with me and the roomate, we had another cat, so maybe that's what I was thinking. So, about 2 weeks ago, I took in the new cat, a couple years older than Girlfriend.
Girlfriend now spends all her time under the couch. No more sleeping with me, no kissing, no welcome home from work. I'm so sad (it's all about me!!) The new cat has taken over Girlfriend's food and water bowls (even though she has her own) and is using Girlfriend's litter box (even though she has her own.) While Girlfriend is still using the litterbox, I'm not sure how often she's eating/drinking! She finally came out this morning (last time I"d seen her was Thursday morning) and she's lost some weight. I can tell because her little belly blub is gone
Am I being selfish? Am I being silly? Do you think they'll work this out? Is the new cat going to be the new alpha cat of the house? I just don't like that! I want Girlfriend to run the place, as usual! I feel like I"ve betrayed Girlfriend. Is this just me imposing my human emotions on the situation? For the record, the new cat is also female, fixed and is really a sweetheart. There is some hissing that happens, but no grappling (yet?). Also, my friend has repeatedly told me that she will take the new cat off my hands if I want to -- so if I start to feel at wits end, I have an alternative.
Thanks for any thoughts..
Then, a few weeks ago, my best friend's grandmother died. The grandmother had a cat and my friend asked if I would take it; she couldn't bear the thought of giving her away or putting her into a shelter, and to be honest, I couldn't either. Cats are family members and you can't just dump them!! My friend has a dog, cat and a young daughter, but said she would take it if I didn't. I said yes. Girlfriend has been having a little "innapropriate peeing" problem lately (which I've been working on fixing), and once the vet cleared her of a UTI, I kind of almost thought "maybe she's lonely?" for some reason. Actually, when she lived with me and the roomate, we had another cat, so maybe that's what I was thinking. So, about 2 weeks ago, I took in the new cat, a couple years older than Girlfriend.
Girlfriend now spends all her time under the couch. No more sleeping with me, no kissing, no welcome home from work. I'm so sad (it's all about me!!) The new cat has taken over Girlfriend's food and water bowls (even though she has her own) and is using Girlfriend's litter box (even though she has her own.) While Girlfriend is still using the litterbox, I'm not sure how often she's eating/drinking! She finally came out this morning (last time I"d seen her was Thursday morning) and she's lost some weight. I can tell because her little belly blub is gone
Am I being selfish? Am I being silly? Do you think they'll work this out? Is the new cat going to be the new alpha cat of the house? I just don't like that! I want Girlfriend to run the place, as usual! I feel like I"ve betrayed Girlfriend. Is this just me imposing my human emotions on the situation? For the record, the new cat is also female, fixed and is really a sweetheart. There is some hissing that happens, but no grappling (yet?). Also, my friend has repeatedly told me that she will take the new cat off my hands if I want to -- so if I start to feel at wits end, I have an alternative.
Thanks for any thoughts..